Damaged23 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Hey guys, My ex and I ended it this Tuesday. We had been dating for 1 year and 3 months. So, Tuesday night got really nasty, as he called the cops and all. We had gone to his niece's house to watch a basketball game, and we were drinking some wine. Now, when I drink, I start offending him. I feel i have so much resentment inside that i drink and things start coming out. Well, anyways on the way home I tell him something like I dont think we're working out, maybe we shouldnt be together, and he agrees. He tells me how I always say he's a piece of ****, and he was going to make it easy for me and that we were done. We get home and I try talking to him. He refuses and gets ready to leave the house again. I try stopping him, i block the exit and beg him to talk, he agrees and then tells me ok, now i'm leaving, but me in my drunknes refuse to let him go.. He storms down the back door and leaves. I get upset and call a friend and leave as well. I get home at around 4 am and he tells me my stuff is packed to get out, i explain I couldnt leave because I was drunk. He goes downstairs and i go after him and throw him his phone charger. He pushes me and tells me to leave, so I go upstairs and laydown in bed and he goes up, so i tell him I had slept with aomeone else, (which was a complete lie, i dont have to lie to you guys) i said that to piss him off. He starts telling me to leave again and I refuse, so he grabs me like in a headlock, takes me down the stairs and calls the cops. I get my stuff and leave before the cops arrive. So it's done, and I do the worst thing I could have ever done. I post a naked picture of him. Now, i'm not trying to get from you guys a don't worry, he'll be back, or you guys can work it out, any of that, cause i know I f***cked it up, i just need to vent, explain all the **** I did. I feel terrible because even though i had reasons to resent him, i should have never use alcohol to insult him, even less post a private picture of him. That was ours, we did that together, trusted each other that it would be for our eyes only. I brought this upon myself. You must all think im a terrible person, and you are probably right.
AlisaMarie Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Hey guys, My ex and I ended it this Tuesday. We had been dating for 1 year and 3 months. So, Tuesday night got really nasty, as he called the cops and all. We had gone to his niece's house to watch a basketball game, and we were drinking some wine. Now, when I drink, I start offending him. I feel i have so much resentment inside that i drink and things start coming out. Well, anyways on the way home I tell him something like I dont think we're working out, maybe we shouldnt be together, and he agrees. He tells me how I always say he's a piece of ****, and he was going to make it easy for me and that we were done. We get home and I try talking to him. He refuses and gets ready to leave the house again. I try stopping him, i block the exit and beg him to talk, he agrees and then tells me ok, now i'm leaving, but me in my drunknes refuse to let him go.. He storms down the back door and leaves. I get upset and call a friend and leave as well. I get home at around 4 am and he tells me my stuff is packed to get out, i explain I couldnt leave because I was drunk. He goes downstairs and i go after him and throw him his phone charger. He pushes me and tells me to leave, so I go upstairs and laydown in bed and he goes up, so i tell him I had slept with aomeone else, (which was a complete lie, i dont have to lie to you guys) i said that to piss him off. He starts telling me to leave again and I refuse, so he grabs me like in a headlock, takes me down the stairs and calls the cops. I get my stuff and leave before the cops arrive. So it's done, and I do the worst thing I could have ever done. I post a naked picture of him. Now, i'm not trying to get from you guys a don't worry, he'll be back, or you guys can work it out, any of that, cause i know I f***cked it up, i just need to vent, explain all the **** I did. I feel terrible because even though i had reasons to resent him, i should have never use alcohol to insult him, even less post a private picture of him. That was ours, we did that together, trusted each other that it would be for our eyes only. I brought this upon myself. You must all think im a terrible person, and you are probably right. aww man! Yeah I hate to say this but you really f'd up! Lying and then posting a private pic like that? I would be sooooo done with you! I know you were drinking, and upset... love makes us sickly crazy and some things that seem rational at the time can cause so much regret later. It sounds like you had a toxic relationship anyway. At least you know what you did was out of line and take responsibly! I would let it blow over, but then eventually (if he even talks to you again) apologize! If you can't get it to that point, try to forgive yourself and don't make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
KatZee Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Relationship aside, I think you have a plethora of personal issues to acknowledge and address before you get into any sort of relationship again. Drinking problems? Anger issues? You seem to do things out of spite, you seem to behave pretty immaturely. These are things I'd expect out of a junior high schooler, and then I read that he has a niece. So you guys are obviously well past the young adult stage. I think getting some IC would help with the issues you have communicating and resolving conflict with people. Over all this sounds like a completely toxic situation from both ends.
Author Damaged23 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Thank you both for your reply. Yes, you are no both right, AlisaMarie and KatZee. I am a horrible person, and have plenty of issues I need to resolve. I just can't help feeling as bad as I do. I know should as I messes up as bad as I could, but I feel so so bad. Sorry for rambling so much, I just feel very streessed out and upset for what I did.
AlisaMarie Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Thank you both for your reply. Yes, you are no both right, AlisaMarie and KatZee. I am a horrible person, and have plenty of issues I need to resolve. I just can't help feeling as bad as I do. I know should as I messes up as bad as I could, but I feel so so bad. Sorry for rambling so much, I just feel very streessed out and upset for what I did. Listen hun, YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON because you know what you did was terribly out of line!!! You would be a bad person if you had no remorse for your actions, but you do. What's done is done, but you really can't make this type of situation better- YOU just have to be better, in the future... for yourself and relationships to come. Don't be so hard on yourself. What you did is probably things we ALL thought of doing!!! Work on yourself for now.
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