unknown249 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Hi guys. My boyfriend broke up with me just over 6 weeks ago and we have been NC for 5. He left our 3.5 year relationship for someone he was working with - it hurt a lot but over the weeks it has got quite a lot easier. The issue is, when we last spoke he said he would like to be friends eventually. At the time, and up until yesterday really, I didn't want to as I thought it would be too hard. However, yesterday I found something that completely changed my views. I saw a message to my ex (I know I really shouldn't have looked but now I'm sort of glad I did) - it was from my ex's 'new girls' ex, who she also dumped to be with my ex. He tracked my ex down. It has really concerned me because in it he was implying she had a massive reputation and maybe an STI, that she has massive daddy issues, has had eating disorders, and is expected to be married and have kids in the next 2-3 years (she is a 26yo Muslim and he is 22). What was more concerning was he was threatening my ex, saying he was almost going to be waiting for him outside his work and hurt him, especially if my ex doesn't step up to the mark with her and commit/help her with her issues. I am really concerned. None of this was heavy on me in a romantic way, I just feel worried for him. My ex is the least violent person and I don't know whether he'd know how to deal with this. Maybe I am being absolutely stupid; part of me knows this is not worth breaking NC over, that he is finally maybe getting his karma... and another part of me thinks if he wants my help he would ask for it, but he isn't the type of guy who would look for help, I'm sure it would just escalate further. Do I try and talk to him or is this me just trying to make him rely on me? Stupidly I still care and don't want to see him get hurt. He also doesn't know I have read the message which would be a problem if I bought it up... Help :/
cdt76 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Let the cheater get his a$$ beat. Who cares, he dumped you for another girl. He can suffer the consequences of his own actions.
Renard99 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 He wilfully entered that situation. It was his decision and he hurt you in order to get what he wanted. In my opinion he's getting what he's due. He walked into the lions den of his own accord, if he gets mauled, it's his own fault. I appreciate that you 'care' for him and it's never easy watching someone come to harm but what he does is up to him now. I'd just let him be.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Good! I say let him get a royal ass kicking! My your story reminds me of my ex..girl becomes muslim, has daddy issues cheated on me...just shes not 26 wow how ppl manage
Author unknown249 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 I guess you're all right, he can get his karma. It just really puzzles me, the stuff that was said in that message is gross, and was she really worth going through all this for? He had such an easy time with me but now they have to go behind parents' backs and all sorts (he's not muslim). But reading it has seriously changed stuff, I had images in my head of her being this beautiful perfect moralistic girl who is the best thing since sliced bread. but no! So it makes me feel brilliant. I feel sorry for him more than anything.
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