RomanceLow Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 My ex cheated not once but twice and i still seem to think of him and i don't even hate him..he hasn't contacted me in over a month and i broke up 2 months ago. His bday is coming up and I wonder will her ever contact me again? I know this shouldn't matter but i still want him to contact me....Will he?
stevie_23 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 We would have no way of knowing if he'd ever contact you again...only he can know that. And as hard as it is to accept, whether he does or doesn't should not matter to you now. I think it's actually quite admirable that you're not angry at him, but I DO wonder WHY you're not... He cheated on you not once, but twice. Do you know why he did this? What reasons did he give? How did you feel about it? Did you feel you were somehow at fault? It's normal to still be thinking of him, and to be missing the GOOD parts of what you had with him now that you no longer have to deal with the less than good parts of the relationship, but...if he DID contact you, what would you want from that? WHY would it be a good thing for him to contact you? Because it might reassure you that he really did care? Because it might show you he still cares? Because you hope to get back together again and that maybe he'll "change" or that you can somehow do more to keep him "happy?" this time? If you are not willing to get back together with him, then there is NO reason why you would want him to contact you again. Just because he has not contacted you does not mean he never loved you. (although the 2 x cheating thing would cause me to question whether he actually loved you) And just because he might ever contact you again does not mean you can get back together and everything will be ok. It would bring more complications and pain with it than leaving it alone and trying to move on and be happy in yourself and not worry about what HE does or doesn't do in HIS life now. 1
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