hw172 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Well I am on this website because I've never felt this kind of pain before, and I'm sure you too know what I'm feeling. But I am hoping a few of you could give me your advice with my situation, I would really appreciate it. Well I got into the most serious relationship I have ever been in about 8 months ago and it ended new years day. We used to talk about getting married, how we were so in love, perfect for each other and all that ****. She started getting distant though- since she had been in multiple serious relationships she was wanting things to be reallllly serious. For me, it was all new territory so it felt pretty serious. But basically she was wanting more. The last few months definitely weren't great, she always seemed on edge and unhappy. So she called me new years morning and said we need to break up and take a break. She still told me how much she loved me but just needed to figure stuff out. This went on for over a month, only to watch her slowly distance herself from me. I definitely over reacted more than once and was always trying to talk about us and get some resolution. I'm sure this didn't help, but it's how i felt at the time, so i don't regret it. We would try and not talk and this would last about 3 days. I went over and gave her all kinds of meaningful gifts on vday and tried to convince her we could learn from our mistakes and move forward- it didn't work. She works with her ex and he knew we broke up, and he slowly worked his way back into her life. Started going over there to do homework with her sister, since they were in the same class. This turned into him sleeping over, and now they are official. They've had sex and all recently. I know this because we had a really open conversation a few days ago. But what throws me for a twist is that she said she enjoyed sex with me more than anyone else and that she will always love me no matter what. Also, she used to talk soo much trash on her ex and about how it couldn't work out. She says things seem different with him this time. Well I've definitely been on the rebound and she knows it. We're not friends on fb but i've looked her up and she's looked me up. I went to a club and was in a photo with 3 girls and posted on facebook, just to kind of stick it to her, since she told me she was official with her ex. She blocked me and said it was too hard to see. She then texted me and said that we can't talk anymore because it's just too hard. We ended up talking on phone and had a good conversation and things ended fine. Just today I got on facebook, and i saw her profile on a mutual friend, and i thought it was weird since i had been previously blocked. I clicked on it and her picture was with her and her ex/new boyfriend. It hurt pretty bad. I thought about it most of the day and it made me so frustrated and betrayed that I texted her saying "thanks for intentionally unblocking me so i could see your picture. You've hurt me enough so please delete my number and don't respond." She texted back saying "I didn't post that for you to see, f$%# you thinking i'm that kind of person." I just said "f me? wow. delete my number." She then called once about an hour later, and sent one text saying how she unblocked me to creep on my profile and fb wouldn't let her reblock me since it hadn't been 48 hours yet.. so a legit excuse. The text also said how she's sorry she didn't mean to hurt me and to please answer. I haven't called back or texted back. I am just wondering what you think I should do. I do love this girl and i've wanted to get back with her, but even when I was at my worst and tried so hard to be with her, I couldn't convince her… so I would have trust issues i think. I hate the fact that she says things are "okay" with her new bf, and she said "they're not great". Also that she said she still loves me and always will. All this stuff just leaves a bit of hope. What should I do? I even bought a new car that i've always wanted, partially because I was thinking maybe it would make her jealous? I went from a 01 civic to an 07 lexus is250. I'm happy about it, but I don't want to be making decisions to try and make her hurt or regret leaving me. Because ultimately, if i'm doing that, I'm the one that is still thinking about her. Okay, so this was a post I typed a few days ago but didn't get much help so I'm adding to this site, since it has a lot more people who participate. But she ended up calling me again the next morning about 4 times so I finally answered-She basically repeated herself a few times and said it wasn't her intention at all to do that. We had about a 7 min conversation about random stuff i asked her if things were getting more serious with her bf, she said not really. After this conversation I felt more hope again, and this feeling makes it so much harder than it should be. It's not fair because while shes with another guy, sleeping with him, she's telling me that shes not sure if we're completely over/she loves me still/ etc. So this is the text I sent her yesterday and i never got a response. "Sorry to keep texting dramatic texts. But I can't do this. You always talked so much **** on Casey and how you were positive things couldn't work with him and how you would never leave me. Well you left me, abandoned me, and got back with him. I already had trust issues and after you making so many promises to me, I really don't see how I could ever trust you again. So please just delete my number and we will both go our separate ways. Good luck with Casey." Any thoughts?
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