TheZebra Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 This is the same guy I was posting about earlier... mister always asking me out but never doing anything. This was the 4th month in a row of this happening. I thought things were getting better as he started texting me every day, but then he suddenly stopped and went cold again. Big sigh... Anyway, there was this guy in his office that I always talk to. Very nice, friendly, mid 30's. He always sees me and my guy together; we've even had drinks together. Sometimes my guy would mention him and earlier this week he even alluded to the fact that this guy might've said something to him (about us). Curious, when I saw this dude yesterday I simply asked him for his opinion on my guy. If he thought he was maybe the shy type, etc. He says he doesn't really know him that well and thinks he's normal. When he asks why I mention that I liked him and that we went out a lot, but nothing ever happened so I was confused. I wanted to ask him out on a real date but didn't know if it was a good idea. He said he didn't know anything (my guy never said anything to him) and suggested that I speak to him about it and clear things up myself, since being in doubt was no good. I thanked him and we went our separate ways, and I felt good that he seemed to be very adult and mature about the whole thing. Anyway, me and my guy were supposed to go out tonight. He texts me yesterday canceling out of the blue; no explanation or anything. Weird. Then this morning not only did he de-friend me on FB, but blocked me. No, he didn't close his account, I had a friend search for him on her account. I mean, really? If that guy told him anything (he didn't seem like the type, but I guess you never know), and his first reaction was OMG panic must block her from my life, then he has issues... or am I crazy? If that guy broke the trust I had in him and said anything then the least my guy should've done was talk to me about it, like adults. For god's sake, he's 30! I would only expect this behavior out of a middle schooler - even a high schooler knows better. If he didn't like that I mentioned something about us to someone else then please tell me; I obviously meant no harm. And honestly, we work in the same building and see each other all the time. Did it never strike him as a bad idea to take this route? That it may be awkward? I'm a pretty rational person (y'all read my posts) and if he came up to me and said he only saw me as a friend I would've accepted it and continued treating him well. But for him to suddenly treat me like a diseased animal... plain disrespectful. I never once blew up his phone, nagged him, used him, etc. I gave him gifts, brought him cookies/cake when my office had it, always gave him my time of day, offered to pay for his drinks for our get together tonight. Why do this to me without even talking about it? I will run into him at some point and when I do I'll talk to him about this, but it's just so frustrating to treat someone like royalty and then they suddenly treat you like crud...
Eggplant Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Anyway, me and my guy were supposed to go out tonight. He texts me yesterday canceling out of the blue; no explanation or anything. Weird. Then this morning not only did he de-friend me on FB, but blocked me. No, he didn't close his account, I had a friend search for him on her account. This behavior is indicative of poor conflict-resolution skills, which are absolutely essential in a relationship. Therefore, you haven't lost much.
Malia25 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I agree in the sense that you are very rational (so I'm surprised this has happened to you)! I've had that happen to me too. The sudden deletion as a fb friend. It's very petty and so inconsequential when you think about it. Perhaps, he met somebody else and didn't know how to tell you - so he took the lame way out. That's what guys are. LAME. The next time you run into him, you should smile and wave - and watch gleefully as he squirms and whimpers in embarrassment/awkwardness. Ha.
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