EasyHeart Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I request full names and google-stalk guys before I give them my phone number. That includes looking at their LinkedIn. Yes, it's to see if you are lying. YOU may not be a liar, but there are plenty of guys who lie or hide information about themselves. If you're being honest, what are you worried about?I think that's pretty basic. I assume people I meet are going to google me, check my FB and LinkedIn pages, look at my company website, look up the articles I've written, etc. If you don't want anyone to know anything about you, get rid of your computer. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 I think that's pretty basic. I assume people I meet are going to google me, check my FB and LinkedIn pages, look at my company website, look up the articles I've written, etc. If you don't want anyone to know anything about you, get rid of your computer. No one can find my FB since I;m unsearchable
Author PhillyDude Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Wow I wasn't aware you could find out that logged in folks had looked at your linked in profile, how do you do that? They have a feature that allows you to see "Who viewed you in the last 90 days" 1
Casablanca Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Wow, Philly, again? Stop nitpicking, it is normal, I do it and I'm sure tons of other people do it too...just getting more information. Nothing wrong with that STOP holding yourself back by finding all these flaws! You must have some good qualities as it sounds like you get a lot of attention from women, but you keep trying to sabotage it 1
FitChick Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Sure, you can google a name, but if it's a common name, good luck in finding the person you are seeking. I can't even find myself (mostly because I've removed myself from every website). One guy I've just started emailing has a name that doesn't seem that common at all, yet I found a negative article about a man with the same name -- a gay porn producer! Searching further, I found a photo of the producer and, fortunately, it wasn't "my" guy. Then I found a couple of more articles with photos and it was the guy I was looking for. I didn't tell him I'd been googling him and he later volunteered some info that I had already discovered.
StanMusial Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I think I would be creeped out by it. Sure it is public information but it seems close to mixing personal and professional life to me, something I do not like to do. I have a lot of important professional contacts on LinkedIn and I don't want someone messing with that, especially a perfect stranger.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I think I would be creeped out by it. Sure it is public information but it seems close to mixing personal and professional life to me, something I do not like to do. I have a lot of important professional contacts on LinkedIn and I don't want someone messing with that, especially a perfect stranger. I had one stupid girl send me a request to connect to Linkedin LOL I was like...."Why the hell would i add someone to my LI profile I met on a dating site?
StanMusial Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I had one stupid girl send me a request to connect to Linkedin LOL I was like...."Why the hell would i add someone to my LI profile I met on a dating site? Maybe she was looking for a job? I don't know, I didn't meet anyone from OLD so I don't know what the correct etiquette is. Although from reading some of the posts on here apparently there isn't any.
happykat Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Yeah I do it all the time.. Still don't know what the difference is between stalking and creeping.. Can someone tell me? Anyway I consider myself a google nerd and actually find it kind of challenging just to see how much stuff I can find out about men when I am first interested in them. I think it's fascinating how much info you can get with little effort.. How else would I have found out that my ex bf (who said had had been married once before) was actually married 4 times and also engaged again just before I started dating him? doh! I am the Columbo of internet stalkers.. 2
Author PhillyDude Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe she was looking for a job? I don't know, I didn't meet anyone from OLD so I don't know what the correct etiquette is. Although from reading some of the posts on here apparently there isn't any. I think she was HIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author PhillyDude Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 Yeah I do it all the time.. Still don't know what the difference is between stalking and creeping.. Can someone tell me? Anyway I consider myself a google nerd and actually find it kind of challenging just to see how much stuff I can find out about men when I am first interested in them. I think it's fascinating how much info you can get with little effort.. How else would I have found out that my ex bf (who said had had been married once before) was actually married 4 times and also engaged again just before I started dating him? doh! I am the Columbo of internet stalkers.. See in 1989 u wouldn't have been able to do all that lol
happykat Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 See in 1989 u wouldn't have been able to do all that lol haha yahh people could get away with all kinds of s*** back then.
pyramid Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) I had one guy challenge me to find his home address. I found that and much more - including that he was not actually divorced like he'd claimed. Buh bye. (His wife seemed nice though.) I became much more vigilant about googling people after I found a news article about one's guy's recent arrest (multiple counts of sex with minors). Now who's the creeper? Edited March 15, 2013 by pyramid 2
EasyHeart Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Yeah I do it all the time.. Still don't know what the difference is between stalking and creeping.. Can someone tell me? Anyway I consider myself a google nerd and actually find it kind of challenging just to see how much stuff I can find out about men when I am first interested in them. I think it's fascinating how much info you can get with little effort.. How else would I have found out that my ex bf (who said had had been married once before) was actually married 4 times and also engaged again just before I started dating him? doh! I am the Columbo of internet stalkers..Anything on the internet is public knowledge. Searching the internet is the first thing anyone should do when they meet someone new. Unless they have something they're trying to hide, they'll be happy you did.
StanMusial Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Anything on the internet is public knowledge. Searching the internet is the first thing anyone should do when they meet someone new. Unless they have something they're trying to hide, they'll be happy you did. I think this is creepy and could cause problems. After all, everything you read on the internet is true, right?
Art_Critic Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 After all, everything you read on the internet is true, right? Depends on the website.. go to my county court records and do a search I'd have to say those records are true.. A persons FB account if made public would be considered true.. so would their LinkedIn profile Blogs... if the blog was theirs.. yeah.. those words would be considered true as far as what came out of their head and mouth.. If you go to my county public records and do a deed search, yeah those are true... The tax assessor.. yeah.. true.... Some of those websites I mentioned have all the public liens and even federal/state tax liens Would you want to date someone who owed the IRS 100k in back taxes? and or had been arrested for Drug Dealing?
dasein Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Would you want to date someone who owed the IRS 100k in back taxes? and or had been arrested for Drug Dealing? Can you post a pic? 1
StanMusial Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Can you post a pic? LOL. It still seems creepy to me. I think a lot of this is because so many complete strangers are meeting on OLD these days. That's why I think social circle dating is the way to go, you have help doing the vetting.
truth_seeker Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Let me tell you, women love to creep on guys online. They know your name, you better believe they are on Google searching for you, checking out your Facebook and your LinkedIn. Women love to talk and gossip about guys and nothing is more fun for them than to secretly check up on you online.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 She called me tonight and we chatted a bit and never said anything about me being on Linkedin
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 ...and you didn't hang up on her??? No she hasn't said anything weird yet lol
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 And you haven't done anything retarded yet lol (Congrats, perhaps you're making some progress) I don't want to waste anytime and already mentioned I want to see her next saturday. Normally I talk on the phone for a ,month
ltjg45 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Weird. I could give someone my full name and they would only be able to find my FB account, where there is little actually being said there. I doubt I got anything to worry about if they want to Google me. Not that I got anything worth hiding anyway. Now, would I google/linkedin someone I'm interested in? Maybe, maybe not. If I had a choice, no. I don't see the value of stalking anyone unless I got a reason to.
outsidethebox Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 itjg, you're letting some of these guys here poison your mind. Looking at what information is available on the internet for someone you're meeting is not creepy or stalking, for a woman it's dangerous not to do so. A man should make that information available and expect her to google the information. You're meeting each other for a relationship. If she doesn't care enough to type your name into google, she doesn't care much about you at all. We shouldn't expect the same information from the girl. Again, the safety of the woman is paramount. She needs to be able to exit from whatever the situation is on meeting if need be without being stalked. Now is where the word stalking is legitimately used. Viewing public information is not stalking, it's normal behavior for adults. Tracking someone down against their wishes and spying on them is stalking. That a guy would ask a woman to meet him to evaluate each other for a relationship and be aghast that the woman looked at what publically available information was on the internet about him is beyond comprehension.
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