JBug717 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I'm new here. And I'm new to dating (recently divorced). So dating is weird to me and I never did feel like I had a good handle on all the "rules". Anyway, I'm really trying to do things right. I met a guy on Match and we really hit it off the first date. We saw each other two weeks later and hung out ALL weekend. We clicked, we like each other. It was awesome. The thing I'm struggling with is the fact that he acts SOOO into me when we are together - like more into me than I am into him. But then the time between dates, he's very closed down. No texting, calling, emailing. I was stupid enough to initiate contact via text (which I now regret and feel like I semi-blew it). What's the deal with this inconsistency? Is there a rule I'm overlooking? Why can we hit it off in person and then silence between dates?? Thanks for any input.
pyramid Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Why do you regret contacting him? (How old are you both, just out of curiosity?) My spidey sense tells me either a) he's married or b) "he's just not that into you"
Archgirl Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 You're not really giving us enough info here babe we need deets - like what does he do to make you think he's so into you and what was the text etc. Would love to help out xo
sabre80 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 How many dates total? I would not expect constant communication till something serious is established. I personally hate the whole "Rules" things. But generally most manosphere crap will tell a guy to limit communication between dates to logistics for setting up more dates.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Why do you regret contacting him? (How old are you both, just out of curiosity?) My spidey sense tells me either a) he's married or b) "he's just not that into you" This!!^^^^^ Typically, when a guy acts that into you on a date and it's genuine, he calls and texts before you can get to it. My instincts tell me this guy is taken, playing the field and occupied with other women during his down time from you, and/or not really into you but enjoys the chase and goodies and will fall off the face of the earth once he gets what he's after. FWIW, there are no real "rules" to dating per se. Just learn to use common sense. Human nature is very predictable. When there is a significant disconnect, as there is here, there's a reason. Also understand that if you play games you will end up with other game players. Learn to be yourself and to do what comes naturally. You'll end up with a good match for you if you do so. So if you want to call or text, go right ahead. His reaction and whether he reciprocates are useful data points.
JMCOSU838 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I'm new here. And I'm new to dating (recently divorced). So dating is weird to me and I never did feel like I had a good handle on all the "rules". Anyway, I'm really trying to do things right. I met a guy on Match and we really hit it off the first date. We saw each other two weeks later and hung out ALL weekend. We clicked, we like each other. It was awesome. The thing I'm struggling with is the fact that he acts SOOO into me when we are together - like more into me than I am into him. But then the time between dates, he's very closed down. No texting, calling, emailing. I was stupid enough to initiate contact via text (which I now regret and feel like I semi-blew it). What's the deal with this inconsistency? Is there a rule I'm overlooking? Why can we hit it off in person and then silence between dates?? Thanks for any input. I don't think you messed up. Perhaps he met someone else. Perhaps he is already with someone else. Perhaps he wasn't as into you as you think he was and he decided to look elsewhere. Whatever the reason, if you're texting him and he isn't responding, then I'd simply move on.
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