Star Gazer Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I know one guy I dated felt bad when I broke up with him almost immediately after we had sex. It was just... really, really bad.
mesmerized Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I'm actually really tempted to start using guys for sex. It's not in my character to do so but it's better than no sex or bad sex.
ltjg45 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 It would be hard for me to feel like I'm being used for sex. If I wanted to have sex and she wanted to have sex and we both agreed that nothing serious will amount from this, well..... Now, if she lied to me thinking something major will come from it and I'm just being stringed along, I'm more liable to give her a good thrashing for lying to me before ending it on the spot, not feel like I'm being used. If that is what it takes to have actual good sex, I'll be glad to be used all of the time.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I have to say that this thread has been memorizing for me to read. I never knew men could feel like this. I always thought that sex was sex to guys and it was good getting it from a fb or one night stand as it was getting it from soemone that actually cares about you. 1
Author MYCluciferase Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 "Disenchantedly.." So glad you're mesmerized... it was reassuring to me to read some of these responses. I've only once had sex without feeling some sort of emotional bond with the woman, and without intending a relationship to develop. That one time made me feel really crappy, 'cos the woman was really into me, and I had to let her down. Wished she hadn't started anything and wish I hadn't responded. Three of four other times at various stages in my life I've been buzzed on alcohol, picked up someone I barely knew and taken them home. On each occasion I've swerved sex; either just cuddling them until they went to sleep, or tucking them in before sleeping on the couch myself. I consider myself pretty highly sexed, but unless there's a real emotional connection, I really don't want to 'dance'. Does this mean that I have to turn in my Red-Blooded Male membership card…?
ThaWholigan Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 "Disenchantedly.." So glad you're mesmerized... it was reassuring to me to read some of these responses. I've only once had sex without feeling some sort of emotional bond with the woman, and without intending a relationship to develop. That one time made me feel really crappy, 'cos the woman was really into me, and I had to let her down. Wished she hadn't started anything and wish I hadn't responded. Three of four other times at various stages in my life I've been buzzed on alcohol, picked up someone I barely knew and taken them home. On each occasion I've swerved sex; either just cuddling them until they went to sleep, or tucking them in before sleeping on the couch myself. I consider myself pretty highly sexed, but unless there's a real emotional connection, I really don't want to 'dance'. Does this mean that I have to turn in my Red-Blooded Male membership card…? Nah, you're alright. We're more emotional than we let on - we believe we have to maintain the facade of being stoic though. Everybody is different and switched on to different things. It's not bad to think that way, but if I were you I would put myself into situations that benefit you more . 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 "Disenchantedly.." Three of four other times at various stages in my life I've been buzzed on alcohol, picked up someone I barely knew and taken them home. On each occasion I've swerved sex; either just cuddling them until they went to sleep, or tucking them in before sleeping on the couch myself./QUOTE] That's pretty impressive MYCluciferase. I actually think that makes you more of a man rather than less of one.
Krieger Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 well the only girl I have had sex with said she loved me and cared about me but after 6 months of GF/FWB she broke it off via text and dated a new guy with in a week of breaking it off. This was a girl i meet a few years back at work and she just kinda got out a a relationship and we ran into each other and she wanted to hang out so we did. I can only blame myself seeing that i did like her in the first place . Next time i am going to make sure i like her and she likes me . I want to hook up with random woman but do not know if i could convince myself it just sex and does not mean anything. On the other hand it be nice to have more experience under my belt to I feel more confident in the bedroom.
Author MYCluciferase Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Kreiger, not attacking you, but maybe your next serious girlfriend won't be sexually experienced? If she's innocent and inexperienced, it might be better to experiment with physical stuff together? Just a thought... 1
Author MYCluciferase Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Disenchantedly, RE: "I actually think that makes you more of a man rather than less of one." Aw shucks. (Thanks for making me feel good.)
dasein Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Sorry you were used OP. Have been used in that way so many times, usually to manipulate a preexisting man into action, commitment, marriage, taking her back, or sometimes just to make him jealous.
Woggle Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I have never felt bad about a woman just wanting sex. I might have wanted more but if she just wanted some fun then no big deal. Wanting to make another man jealous is another story. Don't involve me in your drama and potentially put my safety at risk.
pbjbear Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Men dont feel much in terms of emotions with sex. Theyve done scientific studies on this. Women produce a bonding hormone called oxytocin after sex, and men do too but they produce less of it. Women also produce it during lactation and during childbirth (hence why women keep having babies I guess...) There is a small % of men and an even smaller % of women who produce none of this after sex...prob. those awful people we read about in the Cheating sections. Interesting stuff. Also there have been studies that found some men produce less and less oxytocin after sex with the more partners they have, though that doesnt hold true for women...
Woggle Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Men dont feel much in terms of emotions with sex. Theyve done scientific studies on this. Women produce a bonding hormone called oxytocin after sex, and men do too but they produce less of it. Women also produce it during lactation and during childbirth (hence why women keep having babies I guess...) There is a small % of men and an even smaller % of women who produce none of this after sex...prob. those awful people we read about in the Cheating sections. Interesting stuff. Also there have been studies that found some men produce less and less oxytocin after sex with the more partners they have, though that doesnt hold true for women... This is simply false. 1
pbjbear Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 This is simply false. LOL I work in scientific research Woggle. Ignorance is bliss though, I guess thousands of scientifically measured studies where they measure this hormone must be false...
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Exactly. Men are robots I guess. No emotions. No man ever thinks sex is special... 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I meant that as sarcastically as possible. 2
iris219 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I'm not saying men don't have feelings, but how many men would turn down sex with an attractive girl they liked if they knew she didn't want a relationship?
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I'm not saying men don't have feelings, but how many men would turn down sex with an attractive girl they liked if they knew she didn't want a relationship? You'd be surprised...
iris219 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 You'd be surprised... It seems that while some would be disappointed that she didn't want a relationship, most would still go ahead and sleep with her. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 It seems that while some would be disappointed that she didn't want a relationship, most would still go ahead and sleep with her. Well, let's do a survey and find out. I'll bring the pen and paper and do the recording, you can ask the questions. 2
Bengal Tiger Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 It seems that while some would be disappointed that she didn't want a relationship, most would still go ahead and sleep with her. You don't think very highly of men do you?
iris219 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 You don't think very highly of men do you? Are you saying most men would turn down a beautiful woman if she just wanted sex because he would feel used afterward?
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