Cfb770099 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 OK So there´s something I really want to hear people´s opinion on, there´s this guy who works at grocery store where I usually shop. For a couple of months he s been flirting with me every time I was in the store like he would always talk to me and tease me and trying quite hard to start a conversation with me (I m not the chattiest person on earth). But I´m so crazy shy and never gave him too much back, though I think he s cuuuuuute . Now I haven´t seen him for a while, like a month and a half, I don´t know why, maybe he´s sick, but I found him on Facebook by chance by recognizing him on a picture where he was tagged from a nightclubs fb page (you know when they post pics from past events...) Is it super weird/stalkerish/desperate/random to write to him? He has never even told me his name! Or should I use wait and hope to spot him at the store again?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 OK So there´s something I really want to hear people´s opinion on, there´s this guy who works at grocery store where I usually shop. For a couple of months he s been flirting with me every time I was in the store like he would always talk to me and tease me and trying quite hard to start a conversation with me (I m not the chattiest person on earth). But I´m so crazy shy and never gave him too much back, though I think he s cuuuuuute . Now I haven´t seen him for a while, like a month and a half, I don´t know why, maybe he´s sick, but I found him on Facebook by chance by recognizing him on a picture where he was tagged from a nightclubs fb page (you know when they post pics from past events...) Is it super weird/stalkerish/desperate/random to write to him? He has never even told me his name! Or should I use wait and hope to spot him at the store again? Not stalkerish. Add him. If he's been flirting with you, he probably thinks you're attractive too. This will show your interest and get him chasing you. 2
Lisa_Lisa Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Maybe you should ask someone at the store..haven't seen so-and-so lately, does he still work here? If he does then just wait till you see him again, if he doesn't then I say go for it. Even if he doesn't write back, at least you know. When I used to work at a veterinary clinic, this guy who brought in his cat was flirting a little with me. But he left after the appt. I took a chance and wrote him a note and sent it by mail since he had to fill out the form at the clinic. Stalkerish? Yes! But he called me, told me he liked my note, and we went out that night. It turned into something more before it fizzled out eventually, but I'm glad I had the guts to do it in the first place. 1
wheream_i Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Not stalkerish. Add him. And I was just gonna say "no, don't do that." Lol.
Lani Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I think you should message him on Facebook first, don't add him yet. Send him a message, and make a joke of how you saw him tagged in the picture and thought you'd drop him a message. It's less stalkerish than adding him as a friend, because although you do know him a little, you're not really 'friends', are you?
Author Cfb770099 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Thank you so much for your answers! Ahah no we´re not even close to being "friends" ! As I sad, we don´t even know each other´s names..well, I do know I was considering just "liking" the pic and make sure I have a good profile pic, that ´s maybe more casual nonchalant and "hey I spotted you, but I´m just gonna keep on with my life but you can catch me if you want" -ish. The risk is he might not notice...What do you think? It could be awkward if I do see him at the store again though
Lani Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Thank you so much for your answers! Ahah no we´re not even close to being "friends" ! As I sad, we don´t even know each other´s names..well, I do know I was considering just "liking" the pic and make sure I have a good profile pic, that ´s maybe more casual nonchalant and "hey I spotted you, but I´m just gonna keep on with my life but you can catch me if you want" -ish. The risk is he might not notice...What do you think? It could be awkward if I do see him at the store again though You could like the pic, but you're right, he may not notice. I think you should send him a message, and just say something like 'Hey! So I was looking through the pics from 'blah nightclub' and who's face should pop up I haven't seen you around the store lately, hopefully catch you soon.' It's casual, doesn't give too much away, but it's still contact. Then he can do what he wants about it. He may not respond. And if he doesn't just act normal next time you see him at the store. It will only be awkward if you make it that way! 1
Robman9911 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 You could like the pic, but you're right, he may not notice. I think you should send him a message, and just say something like 'Hey! So I was looking through the pics from 'blah nightclub' and who's face should pop up I haven't seen you around the store lately, hopefully catch you soon.' It's casual, doesn't give too much away, but it's still contact. Then he can do what he wants about it. He may not respond. And if he doesn't just act normal next time you see him at the store. It will only be awkward if you make it that way! I was about to suggest that very thing. Just message him dont add him or tag him. Just say hey, are you still working at that store type of thing, atleast the ball is in his court. And I dont see tags or photo comments for days sometimes since im slow to check FB. 2
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