Ryan_B Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 3 weeks ago (to this very day incidentally) my girlfriened decided to end things with me. I'm 20 and she's 19, she was my first ever girlfriend, and I was really in love with her. We'd had a few arguments in the past, but who doesn't? The week before the BU, I took her on holiday for the week, to celebrate valentines together. It was a really lovely week, and we were so close. But 3 days after we got back, she decided she wants to be alone, just have her friends and family around her and said she doesn't love me anymore. She said she wants a really special friendship instead. I said I can't be friends YET, because I love her to pieces (still do) and my feelings for her reach the stars. So I (after explaining to her why, and she accepted it) deleted her number, facebook, skype and any other contact I could have. I still have to drive past hers occasionally and that hurts a lot. We were really close together. We knew each others problems, no matter how personal (lets say I know of a very ''personal'' problem she gets!). We would talk about anything, we would talk very dirty (most of the time just joking around!) but I mean, like talking and joking about each others ''gender identity areas'' etc!! We would even grab each others ''areas'' out of the blue, just for a laugh. We were permentaly laughing and joking. Always going out for drives, days out, holoidays, you name it, we done it. We had our ''intimate moments'' but a lot of the time, we would sleep at each others and just cuddle up in bed and wake up in each others arms, which was purely beautiful. I miss all of these moments, so much. It's so hard keeping it NC, but I'm not going to contact her until my feelings have died down. But I just get worried, that I won't find a girl like her. Somebody who will be as open as her, someone who will share that same closeness and jokey side I was talking about, the dirty side etc. As for me, that's important as it showed we were comfortable around each other. I just think I will never have that again, and will never have that same closeness and comfort around anybody else. AmI over reacting, or will it be very, very hard to ever find a girl who would share that same kind of humour, closeness, love and comfort together with me? I really do miss it, so much and still love her to bits.
Author Ryan_B Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Sorry about some of the sexual bits in my opening post by the way! But we were just so, so close to each other and fully comfortable with each other, we could literally say ANYTHING to each other (no matter how dirty, personal, ''lovey'', each others negative points etc) and I miss that closeness. Are couples like that usually, or will I struggle to be like that with others? As I said, she was my first GF so I didn't know what I wanted, but now I certainly do!
Bito Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Belive me there are plenty of girls out there who are open to that kind of stuff. I had a similar relationship with my ex. Its normal to think you will never find anyone else after your first girl. But you will.
CorridorE Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a month ago, and I felt the exact same way you do... he was so cuddly and open, and no topic was off limits to us... we could talk about or do anything with each other. He had a funny, dirty mind but one that never made me feel pressured, and the best part of our nights out was coming back to one of our homes and just snuggling up together in each others arms... I think there are other people in the world like your ex and mine because we're like that, right? It's hard to imagine that right now because all I want right now it him... he is 20 too and broke up with me the very same way: we had a great week before the breakup and everything seemed perfect and then out of the blue he said he didn't love me anymore and didn't know why. But I'm hopeful that I will find someone like him but who can commit to me, or that maybe someday he'll realize he's made a mistake. But moving on is more important... the other is only a distant possibility. 1
Renard99 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I think you're over reacting a little bit there. I know the thought of never meeting someone that, not only likes you for who you are, but can also give as good as they get is really strong post break up but it's nowhere near as bad as it feels. By saying that person is 'the one' you're saying, basically, that of all the billions of people on the planet, you have met the only person who likes the things you do. When you think about it, the chances of that being true are absolutely minuscule! None of us have met everyone on the planet so the chances that any of us could meet someone totally new tomorrow, whether as a friend, lover, work colleague and get on really well with them is high. What I'm saying really is that there's a whole world of people out there, go and explore it and find out who really is your 'One'
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