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Tracylove19 Established Member

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Now I'm pregnant.

 

 

He was one of my middle school teacher. I've always had a crush on him. I never thought he felt the same about me. It was really serendipitous. i didn't really regret that I hooked up with him. he didn't talk to me afterwards he just forgot all about me but yeah now it turns out I'm pregnant. He's been married to his wife for over 20 years and has 3 boys with her. I told him he demanded I get an abortion and I know that's what my parents will want. But I don't really like abortion only in like rape incest deformality or health reasons. He doesn't seem to care about me though he only cares about me getting an abortion I know he'll forget all about me after the abortion. But I like having his attention since I told him. I've actually agreed to get an abortion if he comes with but I honestly don't want it. But I don't even know really what kind of mom I'd be especially single and all. My family wouldn't want me to have a baby. Idk I've confused mostly. Advice? Oh yeah, I know I did wrong by sleeping with a married man but it doesn't really change this really the reality and all.

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Now I'm pregnant.

 

 

He was one of my middle school teacher. I've always had a crush on him. I never thought he felt the same about me. It was really serendipitous. i didn't really regret that I hooked up with him. he didn't talk to me afterwards he just forgot all about me but yeah now it turns out I'm pregnant. He's been married to his wife for over 20 years and has 3 boys with her. I told him he demanded I get an abortion and I know that's what my parents will want. But I don't really like abortion only in like rape incest deformality or health reasons. He doesn't seem to care about me though he only cares about me getting an abortion I know he'll forget all about me after the abortion. But I like having his attention since I told him. I've actually agreed to get an abortion if he comes with but I honestly don't want it. But I don't even know really what kind of mom I'd be especially single and all. My family wouldn't want me to have a baby. Idk I've confused mostly. Advice? Oh yeah, I know I did wrong by sleeping with a married man but it doesn't really change this really the reality and all.

 

How are you exactly?

 

So, you're only willing to have an abortion "something you don't really like" because you have his attention and he'll go with you to get one? Geez.

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How old are you?

Got it Established Member

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Is he currently your teacher?

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So two months ago, you were talking about getting drunk and hooking up with a girl, wondering if you were bi, and wondering if your tits were too small. Now you're 19, and pregnant with your x middle school teacher? You are one busy girl, I'll give you that. :cool:

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So two months ago, you were talking about getting drunk and hooking up with a girl, wondering if you were bi, and wondering if your tits were too small. Now you're 19, and pregnant with your x middle school teacher? You are one busy girl, I'll give you that. :cool:

 

Wait, how do you know she is 19??? :confused: Did I miss that?

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Wait, how do you know she is 19??? :confused: Did I miss that?

 

Just do a search for her previous threads. Yikes! Mama must be so proud.

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Well now you are making me work!!! Darn you! :p

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Well now you are making me work!!! Darn you! :p

 

Ha! Sorry!!!:D

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No I didn't hook up with a girl 2 months ago I just asked about when I did have a fling with a girl. Anyway how does my appearance or sexual orientation have to do with this? I don't believe it does.

 

 

Anyhow I'm 19 and I've been trying to put off actually getting it for that reason plus when I get it he'll forget I even exist. I don't want to feel as though like used and them alone.

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wisernow.

 

So appropriate.

 

have the baby, deliver it to his home, and tell him - 'it's all yours, pop. I don't want it.

Cramps my style with my bi-bitch....'

 

Sorted.

 

Well...

It would work.

you asked for advice, I gave it.

 

Harsh.

But workable nonetheless.

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No I didn't hook up with a girl 2 months ago I just asked about when I did have a fling with a girl. Anyway how does my appearance or sexual orientation have to do with this? I don't believe it does.

 

 

Anyhow I'm 19 and I've been trying to put off actually getting it for that reason plus when I get it he'll forget I even exist. I don't want to feel as though like used and them alone.

 

Trust me on this. He will forget you, probably already has, (or had) and you can damn well bet that if he hasn't, he's in damage control mode. Did you think you were going to have a happy ever after with some old creeper? I'm truly not an advocate for abortion, but in your case, I make an exception.

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Telling his wife is a sure fire way to guarantee he will never forget you and that you are a great big deal.

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Telling his wife is a sure fire way to guarantee he will never forget you and that you are a great big deal.

 

...And if you follow my advice, she'll have a little step-baby to deal with too.

 

My, won't she be a happy bunny..... :D

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That's one of the reasons I don't want an abortion but I think he'll try to push me away if I don't get one. Plus I feel like idk like I'm all alone if I protest. Like my parents would side with him and is end up getting an abortion anyway and everyone would know I got pregnant by him and had to have an abortion because he didnt want me to. Which is hurtful anyway. That he has kids with her but not me. It's like embarrassing to have a child with a guy who is devoted to someone else I feel like I'm going to fall into deep depression over it because of him. That's kind of why I feel stuck either way he's going to maker feel like ****.

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Telling his wife is a sure fire way to guarantee he will never forget you and that you are a great big deal.

 

Yea I've considered doing that. Especially before when I talked to him.

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Tracy, is keeping the child in YOUR best interest? Are you ready to be a parent? Are you financially independent? Can you support the child? Do you want the child? Do you want to be responsible for the baby's care and development for the next 18 plus years? Please don't let ego play a factor in this, you are dealing with a very grown up situation and you need to look at it logically and seriously.

 

I am sorry you feel you need this to be connected to him. If you feel like this there is probably great reason why. You may be a fling for him and I am very sorry about that. But right you are bearing the brunt of your union. You have to deal with the biggest consequences. And there is going to be an innocent child who is being towed along for the ride.

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Tracy.

 

You want and like a lot f attention right now and that's fine, you're 19, it's perfect!

 

But your judgement is off. Maybe not outrageously off for a wild 19 year old girl, or possibly a lonely one...but

 

Off enough that you very very soon you are going to have regrets.

Don't make life changing decisions based on your 7th grade social studies teacher.

 

Seriously.

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I've always had a crush on him. I never thought he felt the same about me.

 

He's been married to his wife for over 20 years and has 3 boys with her.

 

I know he'll forget all about me after the abortion. But I like having his attention

 

The typical signs are there.

 

Wants attention.

 

Wants to be loved

 

Cannot judge the actions of married men. In fact welcomes attention of married men. Most normal girls would vomit.

 

I suggest you seek psychiatric care right away.

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However he is an ass and should have some serious consequences for trifling with you this way. Very serious. I'm shocked your parents haven't called him since you've told them.

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Listen very carefully.

 

What - in your heart of hearts - do YOU really want to do about the pregnancy?

 

I really do think, in all fairness, personally, for my own point of view, is carry to term then put it up for adoption.

But you have to let him know what you're doing, and tell him his name will be on the birth certificate.

 

That - in my opinion, would be the most favourable solution.

And the fairest.

 

So many 'wins' in this way, rather than more losses, in any other.....

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Tracy, is keeping the child in YOUR best interest? Are you ready to be a parent? Are you financially independent? Can you support the child? Do you want the child? Do you want to be responsible for the baby's care and development for the next 18 plus years? Please don't let ego play a factor in this, you are dealing with a very grown up situation and you need to look at it logically and seriously.

 

I am sorry you feel you need this to be connected to him. If you feel like this there is probably great reason why. You may be a fling for him and I am very sorry about that. But right you are bearing the brunt of your union. You have to deal with the biggest consequences. And there is going to be an innocent child who is being towed along for the ride.

 

I don't know. I can't really think of really what life would be like if I kept the baby. I just don't really like abortions. And I know I'd love my baby. Also I'm kind of scared if I'm too far along that it is bad. It's not just him its my parents too I wish I could just run away and hide sometimes

 

I really really liked him a lot when I was in 8th grade I missed him so much when I left. I feel like if maybe I do the right thing I'll be able to have him longer.

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Listen very carefully.

 

What - in your heart of hearts - do YOU really want to do about the pregnancy?

 

I really do think, in all fairness, personally, for my own point of view, is carry to term then put it up for adoption.

But you have to let him know what you're doing, and tell him his name will be on the birth certificate.

 

That - in my opinion, would be the most favourable solution.

And the fairest.

 

So many 'wins' in this way, rather than more losses, in any other.....

I haven't told my parents yet to other pp

 

Yeah I have thought about adoption it seems like a better idea.

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I don't know. I can't really think of really what life would be like if I kept the baby. I just don't really like abortions. And I know I'd love my baby. Also I'm kind of scared if I'm too far along that it is bad. It's not just him its my parents too I wish I could just run away and hide sometimes

 

I really really liked him a lot when I was in 8th grade I missed him so much when I left. I feel like if maybe I do the right thing I'll be able to have him longer.

 

Tell your parents you may be surprised by their support, if they feel you are too immature or not ready have a baby they will tell you this but I think they will also ask you if this is what you want, if you do they will support you and your baby.

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I don't know. I can't really think of really what life would be like if I kept the baby. I just don't really like abortions. And I know I'd love my baby. Also I'm kind of scared if I'm too far along that it is bad. It's not just him its my parents too I wish I could just run away and hide sometimes

 

I really really liked him a lot when I was in 8th grade I missed him so much when I left. I feel like if maybe I do the right thing I'll be able to have him longer.

 

Tracy, I understand your feelings on abortion and that is your right. What about adoption? Do you think you can give this child the life it deserves? Do you think you can care and support this child on your own?

 

Running away and hiding is a child response, honey you aren't a child any longer. This is now an adult situation that you need to face. I understand you really liked him but honey don't you see that in 8th you were a child, having a child's crush. You didn't really know him or anything about it. I think it is disgraceful that he slept with you because you aren't much more than a child yourself. But you did make the decision and now have to face the consequences.

 

You need to figure out if you can care for this child. You can get child support from him because he is legally responsible to care for the child as well, but is this the life you want? Are you ready for this responsibility?

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