Do you think i look too exotic/peculiar

[bostonterrier]

During my high school times I didn't get too much attention from girls, I dont think it was my personality tho, I wasn't a very attractive person back then,so te first date i went to a date I was around 23 years old, and it didn't really work that well because I have a hard time talking to women, I have social phobia and can't express my feelings , unless I take medicaton for anxiety and panick attacks.I'm a very quit person and leave all my frustration inside of me, so after a while they will give up and won't return my calls anymore, I know it's really sad and pathetic at the same time, but it's not my fault, I didn't ask to be born this way.

But I want an honestly opnion from women, do you think physicaly I stand a chance? I'm not looking for a super-model just an avarage looking woman, I'm 28 years old, and a chef,I have dreams of opening my own franchise and everything, but honestly I'm start to giving up on relationshiops, I used to be become depressed over it, but now if I can have inner peace is all i need.

Here is my picture by the way, I'm 50% lebanese, and 50% armenian.

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Edited March 13, 2013 by bostonterrier

[Feelin Frisky]

I don't have an opinion on your looks. I can at least say you're not ugly. I'm just posting because you mentioned anxiety/panic attacks and medicine. That is something I have a lot of experience with and it is possible that you have not gotten the right diagnosis or the right prescription or have gotten misinformation because there sure is a lot of that flying around. Firstly, "social anxiety" is very different from "general anxiety"--general anxiety is the type that leads to what some people experience as "panic attacks". Social anxiety--nervousness around people where you might clam up, feel self conscious, and maybe feel you need a drink or something to loosen up is much more common and actually so much so that it is all but normal. We just call it shyness. I had that as I grew up and it lasted until I stumbled over a medication that made me able to control my feelings and avoid blushing and quivering voice. That medicine was a class called the SSRIs which include Proazac, Paxil, Luvox, Lexapro, Celexa. I took Prozac because I had a heart-breaking relationship go bust and I was sick of being sick of how I felt about it. Instead of reaching for self-medication with drink, I reached out for real medication from a doctor. None of this class of medicine gets you "high" or acts like a sedative. But I found that I no longer suffered the social anxiety that kept me self-conscious. So, if there is any thought that medicine can't help, put that aside. It surely can. And it is not an indication of being ill, it is an indication of being unhappy with your feelings and taking responsibility to do something healthful about it. It takes a few weeks to start recognizing that your feelings are changing and you can build on that.

 

If you have "general anxiety" disorder you will have anxiety and extreme anxiety called panic attacks at times for no external reason. This condition is more often the product of a chemical shortfall in the production of a necessary neurotransmitter (gaba-amino-butyric acid). Doctors will often prescribe a class of meds called the benzodiazapines which include XANAX, Clonopin, Valium which are intoxicating sedatives which can lead to physical dependency. You want to avoid those because they bring on anxiety when they wear off. Medications that help which don't get you high are Neurontin and Buspar. And Vitamin B6 helps boost production of the neurotransmitter which is in shortened supply in general anxiety disorder. You have to be very mindful of any supplements you might be taking from health food stores or Internet. Some can trigger general anxiety disorder--I have experienced it myself and had to go through a lot to recover. Anxiety does not have to be permanent. It's in your court to either generalize and resist proper medicine, or step up and resolve the chemistry that causes your sense of nervousness. In any case it's a process of finding what worls and then building on success.