Author brendan670 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 ok.. I just thought maybe since she said she was scared if she seen me she would want me back.. but Ill just keep to NC then if thats best. Its just still hard, I really miss her. Just to clear things up, NC at this point will make it a better chance of her wanting me back, plus help me get over her if she doesnt, correct?
asdfasdf1234 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Dude, your acting like you see a chance of getting back together! Did she even remotely say this to you during your little conversation? Nope! BUT! She did say you could be friends! Well, isnt that sweet.... she's convinced that she's 90% sure that she wants you back.....yet she doesnt want to see you and wants to be single...so, why the hell does she need to talk to you. That conversation was a waste of time. Seriously, you need to stick to NC. For Gods sake please listen to this guy. He knows what he is talking about she is completely trying to play you dude. She wants to keep you around so that it doesn't work out with this other dude that you're there for her. The thing is even if it doesn't work out with this guy she will not respect you if you just sit and wait on the sidelines for her. Cut her off!!!! NC! Do not speak with her until she begs you. I know it is tough to do this because you want to believe that she still wants to get back together right now but she!! doesn't!!!! I've see n situations like this play out so much. even if she does beg you do not talk to her until she says she wants to get back together with you
Author brendan670 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Ill agree with you that I will totally cut her off no matter how hard. Its just really hard for me to believe that she is playing me. Maybe she has just changed but the whole time we've been dating she has been literally the most genuine person i've known and have never caught her in a lie. But I will NC. Im sure most people on here know better than me, after all, this is my first breakup with my first love. I do really appreciate all the support on here though, It really has helped me cope even though I dont know anyone here personally, so thanks to everyone.
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Okay, NC is tool for us to heal and move on, NOT to try to get our Ex's back. Guys and gals that try NC with that mindset usually end up getting hurt worse. So, lets take stock on what we DO know about your relationship. She ended it with you. That is a certainity. That is where you stand. You are no longer together. Therefore, you have to start living your life as if she's not coming back. Because, chances are, she's not. Now, you need to ignore every text and every phone all. The only thing you should even remotely entertain is a text that says, " I'm sorry. I made a mistake and I'll do anything if you'll take me back.". Anything else is just breadcrumbs. The one thing about most women is that can't stand the fact that there might be one person that hates them or doesn't think they're a nice person. So, she'll want you in the friend zone to ease her own guilt. If you're tempted to return her text, stop! Post here instead.
Thunderchild Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Good Morning Chi - always a pleasure to read your posts: "The one thing about most women is that can't stand the fact that there might be one person that hates them or doesn't think they're a nice person." Gee, obviously you haven't met some of my exes!!
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Good Morning Chi - always a pleasure to read your posts: "The one thing about most women is that can't stand the fact that there might be one person that hates them or doesn't think they're a nice person." Gee, obviously you haven't met some of my exes!! LOL! You're right. That's why I wrote MOST women. I should have excluded Scottish women!
Author brendan670 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 (edited) I just realized that my OP ot some sentenses flipped around in the first paragraph and for some reason I cant edit my orighinal post. so heres the first paragraph corrected. "So the last week or two my girlfriend of 1.5 years befriended another guy. I didn't think much of it at first but last weekend we were all hanging out and i noticed he really seemed to be flirting with her. I told her how I feel about him after he left and she assured me nothing is going on between them and they are just friends. About the same time I noticed she became really protective of her cell phone.(I have never gone through her phone before) Last night I got off work at 5 and asked her if she wanted to go out for ice cream, and she said that she coudn't because she promised Ben (her new "friend") that she would take him out to eat for his birthday. I told her ok but we need to have a talk about the situation. At ten oclock she was still with him and that they were watching a movie. At this point I lost it. She said she didnt see the big deal about it because there were other people there, but she wouldnt let me come over because she was scared me and him would get in a fight. she told me that she doesnt want anything more than a friendship with him and she knows hes an ******* to women" Moving on, Its hard for me to want to make her think I hate her. Shes going through a really rough time in her life the past few months. she found out that her dad is a POS and the only reason he ever acted like he cared was for child support reasons, and her mom was just told by her doctor that she doesn't have long and there is nothing he can do so hes taking her off all meds...I just fell like she isnt thinking straight and doesnt know what she wants. ever since all this happened shes been making huge decisions without thinking them through. a month and a half ago she suddenly decided she wanted to join the army, I had a very tough time talking her out of it. (she is a girly girl and has shot a gun one time in her life, and hates violence) Im feeling better about the whole situation but still hope that she realizes this isnt what she wants. I just wish there was something I could do to that might help her change her mind, but I'm also not gonna wait around for her either. Edited March 19, 2013 by brendan670
Author brendan670 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 She literally texted me right after I posted this, to congragulate me on getting a promotion. She found out through something I posted on twitter today. I hope this could be a good for her wanting to get back with me, because When we broke up she told me that I've changed recently and agreed with me when I said its probably because of stress at work because i've been at the bottem end of the totem pole at my job and want more. I guess Ill just ignore it though. Its probably nothing more than her wanting to be nice...
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Yep! Breadcrumbs...just being nice, which is fine. But she doesn' t want to get back together.
Author brendan670 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Is it best to just totally ignore it or should I make it clear I can't be in the friend zone with her?
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