nofool4u Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Still, my question stands, what do people mean when they say that to someone who already has the H or W and the M? Because it makes them think they have the power to decide, as if the MM/MW was theirs to allow the BS to keep.
nofool4u Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Sarabi, can I think poorly of him for you? At least until you are able to see how saying mean things are one thing But vile lies and manipulative half truths being pored over your head is wrong, especially from the man who said he cared for you!! I think I'm "man-hating" tonight.. Sorry ladies & gents(if you're reading)* Bah, you are entitled to man hate once in a while. Just as long as it isn't who you are the rest of the time. 3
Author ComingInHot Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Nofool4you, "The difference is the BS already "has" the spouse. It isn't the OP's power to give them to the BS. Flip that around, and you have a BS who says, "you can have him/her" is a person that doesn't want the cheater and is prepared to go through the hell of divorce to let the OW/OM have the cheater." But then, it isn't so much the OW/OM or WS saying "you can have him/her" but more like the BS Giving them away, right? (whether anyone wants them at that point*) Not so much saying "You can have them" but rather "take him, I don't want him" (or her to be fair to both genders). Anyway, at that point the actual D would be the Literal action of unbinding the Marital contract to then say with factuality, "you can have him", right, because technically the M contract makes the married couple a legal "team" so to speak. Then again, I could find a lost dog and bring him home and love him ALL day 24/7 and he could very much love me too, but when he sees is his True owner, he'd drop me like a lead balloon. I could say, "I had him" but he really belongs to you, so now you can have him back" I have NO idea if that just made sense... i tried lol* hopefully we're not all dumber for reading my post 1
Sarabi Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 So sweetly and kindly said! Thanks for the like your kind words are much appreciated right now trust me(!) 1
Author ComingInHot Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Underitall, " you can have him, all of him, the lying cheating disrespectful a-hole that he is." If you knew this about him, why have the A in the first place? And did you feel he was 'yours to 'give' to give to his W in the first place? *
nofool4u Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 you can have him, all of him, the lying cheating disrespectful a-hole that he is." I'm done with him...enjoy! What's the point of saying any of that to the betrayed spouse, just to somehow get in one last dig? Yes, precisely that. 1
Author ComingInHot Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 UnderitandOver it all, Thanks for your explanation Paperangle, I feel like you do (and NoFool*), it's a dig , feels like one more way to say, "If I had REALLY wanted him for Everything, I could have, but I don't want him so here's your CR@P H back..." I Want to view it differently but I just don't feel it. Sigh* 1
Artie Lang Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 sorry to ruffle your feathers, but as soon as your husband dropped his pants for this woman, he ceased to be only yours. the thing is, you still want him, so she just told you to go ahead and keep him. truth is your husband will never be only yours. sorry.
Author ComingInHot Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 artie, " truth is your husband will never be only yours." Gotcha. Thanks.*
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