whoiandi Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) Hello, First, long story short. I split up with my GF at the end of November or so and was pretty devastated for a while (relationship was over 3 years after all). Then I hook up with this girl over the Internet over the course of the next month. This was really fast. We kept it slow and we just chatted over the Internet and got to know each other really well. I already knew that she had broken up with her BF also like a few months ago (she told me this happened pretty much after the last summer). We finally met after over a month of chatting and she is really nice and I really like her company. We had sex immediately and kept seeing like once a week. Then after a while I got to know that she had actually had sex at December with her ex-BF. This happened by accident, she sort of slipped this information out. Now this had happened just before we had met over the Internet. First this did not bother me that much, because you know, I had just ended up a long relationship too. But then I started to think about rebounding and where all this would lead in the end. She still has his pictures up online in Facebook and I have a feeling she reminisces him somehow alot. She even kept chatting with the ex while she was with me which I first took lightly but after the little information-slipping I asked her how she would feel if I did the same while I was with her. Some of these things just dont make any sense to me. As I feel I am more ready and willing to move forward and I am truly done with my ex here. We are not keeping any contact and we are not planning to see each other anymore. We decided that way when we ended our relationship. This new girl she also has some items still at the ex-bf's place ( it is over a really long distance ). She was planning to pick them up which I was also fine with at first, now I would not trust her really in that sense after I know what they were doing still only like 2 months ago. I am kind of puzzled because I like her but it feels like there is a sort of a wall between us still. Edited March 13, 2013 by whoiandi
will1988 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I would say you both are the rebound for each other....you might not think she is a rebound, but jumping from a 3 year relationship to a new woman within a few months sure sounds like a rebound to me. You monkey branched. You didn't take the time to heel and move on. But I am not going to give you hell for it, we've all been there and done that before. Your new fling is in the same exact boat. BTW how does one accidently have sex? woops I slipped my penis in your vagina... sorry, my bad? lol. All joking aside, you two are eachothers rebounds. If you are already having trust issues with eachtoher, I'll be honest, this little fling wont blossom and will most likely fizzel out shortly. You need to be single for a while, process, heel, move on... sure have fun with women, but don't force them, or yourself into a relationship that is based just souly on being in a relationship because you miss being in a relationship.
LuckyShades Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I think he meant she told him by accident, not they had sex by accident. But I was in a nearly identical situation to this about a year ago. Prepare to hear the phrase "you were just a rebound, sweetheart" if you ever get in a fight. 1
Author whoiandi Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 I would say you both are the rebound for each other....you might not think she is a rebound, but jumping from a 3 year relationship to a new woman within a few months sure sounds like a rebound to me. You monkey branched. You didn't take the time to heel and move on. But I am not going to give you hell for it, we've all been there and done that before. Your new fling is in the same exact boat. BTW how does one accidently have sex? woops I slipped my penis in your vagina... sorry, my bad? lol. All joking aside, you two are eachothers rebounds. If you are already having trust issues with eachtoher, I'll be honest, this little fling wont blossom and will most likely fizzel out shortly. You need to be single for a while, process, heel, move on... sure have fun with women, but don't force them, or yourself into a relationship that is based just souly on being in a relationship because you miss being in a relationship. Nah you got me wrong there The sex obviously was no accident. But she had told me they split up moths ago basically and it accidentally came up that they have had sex just a short time ago still. Before this I actually trusted that she was more over him than now. But yeah, guess we are in the same boat here anyway.
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