Am I looking into this too much?

[Steve11]

It’s been 3 weeks tomorrow since the BU & we have been contacting each other. Me mainly asking her to meet up for a drink (wrong I know). She said she’s not ready to see me yet (she dumped me).

 

I asked for my things back last week, because it is stuff I need – clothes, computer etc etc She said it’d be too hard to see me, and she’d give it to a mutual friend. I’ve seen this friend a few times now, and we haven’t spoke about the breakup, but they also haven’t mentioned anything about my belongings.

 

I thought you’d want it all gone as soon as poss to move on. Is she keeping hold to maybe reconcile or for something to contact me with in the future? I’ve told her I’ve got some stuff of hers, which she hasn’t asked for.

 

Clutching at straws because I’d take her back in a heartbeat.

[Minneloa]

In answer to your thread title: Yes.

 

Sorry to be blunt, but from what you have been posting I think you need a reality check.

 

Of course it is difficult to let go, but at this point you seem to be obsessing over nothing.

 

I urge you to give NC a real chance. You might be surprised at the relief you experience.

[Steve11]

I thought as much. I am obsessing & I did go NC but we contacted me with a harmless text & it set me back.

 

I find posting here helps. I just don't want to give up.

[Chi townD]

Okay, well... if you want your stuff back, then give her crap to that mutual friend and ask him/or her, " I hate to put you in the middle of this, but when you drop this stuff off to her, could you get my computer and these items of clothes from her?"

 

BAM!! Nothing more to do. The friend has got to go over there to hand over her crap to her anyway. Might as well get your crap too.

 

Then hard NC.

[Steve11]

I really didn't want to get anyone involved. I'll just ask her to leave it on her doorstep at a certain time. I'll grab it, then at least I can stop obsessing!