big bear Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 So, my break up happened in Oct 2011. Was at good terms even made out till Jan 2012. Things happened this and that (water under bridge). I became crazy grovelling till May 2012. Post that it was basically NC for most of time (except some drunken fights). In July I deleted her off Facebook. Sep, I drunk dial her 100 times, she does'nt pick up but sends me a FB request. I accepted reluctantly (as all of us think our love/rel. was special, when in fact 9 out of 10 are same). When solid NC, Nov last year. Blocked her off facebook. Eventually, I deactivated Facebook. Just felt too intrusive. I quit drinking and as a part of healing, I mailed her an apology 10 days ago (explicitly saying I am not looking for any thing, no meeting or so). Of course admitting it was hard and we had a couple of exchanges on mail asking how she was. Needless, to say she did not reply to the apology (which is fine by me, because I burned her and she burned me). Today, I get a mail asking me to add her in LinkedIN (a mail from linkedin not from her). Shows she deleted me after I apologized. I don't use linkedin that much. Why do this now, almost two years later. I am not gonna react but anyways since, you have left me for another guy, why do this now. I am not even a consideration anymore. Do I have to loose everything I have just to redeem myself. I admit my mistakes and left her alone. But this after two solid months of fighting my demons and deciding to apolgise (even though she won't care a damn) this knocked me off a little. Oh BTW the old password to her account was my name which I asked her to change the last time I spoke to her.
Renard99 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Sometimes those LinkedIn emails are auto generated so I wouldn't look too much into it. I had one asking me to add someone that I knew from work but, having asked him, he didn't actually send it. It was just LinkedIn thinking it was clever by matching us up through various criteria. My advice to you is to not make any contact with her whatsoever from now on. You've apologised and said what you needed to say so now draw a line under the whole thing. If you feel the urge to write or contact again, just close the email, put the pen down or put the phone down and walk away until the urge passes. As for things like LinkedIn, if you don't use it that much, just delete your profile. I still have my Facebook and LinkedIn accounts but I've not only deleted her but I've also blocked her. That means that I can continue to use the sites whilst not being able to not see her whilst she can't see me either
will1988 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 sounds like you need to move on, brother. how long were you two dating?
purplereigncb Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 sounds like you need to move on, brother. how long were you two dating? Yes, how long?
Author big bear Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 5 years.. And I am trying to move on.. Kicked the bottle.. It's an auto-generated mail. It just knocked me off balance that after all this time. Now when I fall silent and when last year I came to know she found a guy or whatever, this is being done. I get no urges to contact. I have paid for all I did and paid in blood, sweat and tears. It just saddens me at times. Why delete me now after I apologize and go strict NC. Leave her a freebird. I should have deleted her myself.
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