irc333 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 With this whole ignoring of "Social cues" situations....I have heard of women that actually have stated, that if a guy doesn't call them 2 or 3 times, they won't date the guy, because it's a test of the guy's level of interest in HER? Agree or disagree? That a guy that calls a woman once, leaves a message....he doesn't call anytime after that.....and the woman doesn't return that message. She actually will wait to see if he calls again to check that man's level of interest, otherwise, she'll write him off as a prospect. Yes...no? Male friend of mine has done this....he'd give up after one message....would encounter the woman later at a party or get together and she said, "You give up way to easily, if you expect to get dates with women, you have to learn to be a bit more interested." And by "interested" , the continued phone calls or attempts at contact. And hewas like "Huh??"
soccerrprp Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Yes, persistence CAN pay off. And, of course, making a reasonable number of contacts may and does show interest. Just have to be careful about not appearing needy. I've gotten dates from ladies who did not respond to my first or second emails (OLD) to finally give in b/c I was persistent. I once contacted a lady 5-6 times before she finally gave in. It didn't work out romantically, but we're friends now and it's funny to look back at it. Mind you, I only did this if not given a definitive rejection. Silence is not definitive as I've observed. I never emailed more than 3x to silence. After then I either took it as she was not interested for certain, and/or she probably had so many other options that she didn't have the time to respond to my email(s). 1
AMusing Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 "Oh, I really like this guy. So I'll completely ignore his phone call, just to see if he calls again. I mean, yes, he's called me once--which shows that he obviously is interested--but he's not really interested if he only calls once. I'm really interested, which is why I'm ignoring him completely, but he should know that I'm interested and call 2-3 times anyway (or not know my interest level, but be so into me that he'll put his pride on the line--and ignore typical social behavior--not once but three times just for the honor of a date with me)." No. Just, no. I refuse to believe a large percentage of women behave this way. Is it just younger girls (<22 yo) do this? I never hear of my friends doing that, and it never occurred to me to play that kind of game. Perhaps OLD is a little different, where women are bombarded by multiple messages daily. Then I could see sending one repeat email, just to stand above the crowd. But after she's given you her number? Not ok. 3
sweetkiwi Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Huuuh??? Really?? If a guy has the balls to even ask me on a date I go. Unless he's a complete creep or jerk. And if he calls or texts I respond. Could it br that that's why it's never difficult for me to find a boyfriend or even dates??? Probably. Testing men or others so they can "prove" their interest is Bull****. 1
dasein Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Persistence can work, but with the wrong kind of woman. Every one of my friends who did the romcom pursuit thing and eventually "won" her ended up miserable with a manipulative PITA wife. Plus there's an opportunity cost in there, time spent trying to pursue a disinterested person could be better spent finding those who are interested. Two invitations, then on to next, unless she suggests specific alternate plans.
Treasa Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 With this whole ignoring of "Social cues" situations....I have heard of women that actually have stated, that if a guy doesn't call them 2 or 3 times, they won't date the guy, because it's a test of the guy's level of interest in HER? Agree or disagree? That a guy that calls a woman once, leaves a message....he doesn't call anytime after that.....and the woman doesn't return that message. She actually will wait to see if he calls again to check that man's level of interest, otherwise, she'll write him off as a prospect. Yes...no? Male friend of mine has done this....he'd give up after one message....would encounter the woman later at a party or get together and she said, "You give up way to easily, if you expect to get dates with women, you have to learn to be a bit more interested." And by "interested" , the continued phone calls or attempts at contact. And hewas like "Huh??" Yay, easy to solve! Don't call them again. If they aren't even going to answer or respond to your phone call....NEXT.
Barnacle-Bob Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Male friend of mine has done this....he'd give up after one message....would encounter the woman later at a party or get together and she said, "You give up way to easily, if you expect to get dates with women, you have to learn to be a bit more interested. And I would summarily tell that girl to f**k herself.
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