Genie1 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 So I've known this guy through work and we have been texting for 2 months solid. And it's been about all sorts. Work/life/day to day stuff. Sometimes the minor odd bit of flirting. He never overstepped "the mark", and I was happy with this. Baring in mind we'd seen each other around at work, but never really had a one to one. We decided to go for a drink last week in the evening. I kinda saw it as a date, as flirty banter had been going back and forth and at the end of the night, we had a (very nice) kiss and went separate ways. He then text me as soon as he got in and said he'd had a lovely night and suggested we do something again soon. To which I agreed because I thought I actually like this guy! 3 days on, we have another date and cutting a long story short, we ended up in bed together. I know what everyone's thinking...! But prior to that, we had a great evening. We didnt stop laughing/ chatting/ just nice things. I kinda had scared thoughts as soon as it happened but then I remembered that we were texting for 2 months nearly every day without meeting up. Surely if this man just wanted sex, he would have given up well before the 2 months. Especially considering we had invited me for drinks plenty of times during that period but I declined due to other plans etc. That was a bit of comfort. So that evening after I sent him a text saying "thank you for a nice night last night".... A smal conversation happened (but this wasnt odd for him, even though we text a lot, not a great deal ever gets said)... And to test the waters I said "maybe we can go out one evening next week if you'd like to?" And the response that came back was "yeah definatley. Sounds good to me!" I was happy with that. Anyway, yesterday he sent me a text saying "what are you up to tomorrow night?" (Now meaning today). And I replied saying "I've got no plans...why??" And I've heard NOTHING back! Not a single text. He's been on the Internet and all sorts so his phone isn't broken or anything. What do I do? If he comes back to me and invites me out tonight, shall I go? Even though it's pissed me off that now it kinda feels like I am expected to drop everything on the same day (even though he knows I have no plans tonight). Or does this look like a case of now he's got what he wants, he's off?? :-( Any advice would be great.
soccerrprp Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Genie1, Wait. Why the angst? He spoke to you just yesterday and you told him that you had no plans. He knows this. Perhaps he's trying to figure out what to do? Or he's just busy right now, but I'd wait. You're not dropping anything it seems to me. You said it yourself, you have no other plans. FOR NOW, his behavior/actions are not suspicious. Just wait....hope he calls/texts for a date.
Author Genie1 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Thank you. We all know women over think everything anyway (I'm the first to admit it). But it just dont like the thought of someone taking the p*ss out of me. I'd much rather someone come and say "yeah look, it's going no where but thanks anyway". My gut feeling was that he doesn't use girls for sex, but part of me thought that now he's gotten that, he won't want me for anything else. I'll chill out and see if he gets in contact. If not, oh well!
soccerrprp Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Thank you. We all know women over think everything anyway (I'm the first to admit it). But it just dont like the thought of someone taking the p*ss out of me. I'd much rather someone come and say "yeah look, it's going no where but thanks anyway". My gut feeling was that he doesn't use girls for sex, but part of me thought that now he's gotten that, he won't want me for anything else. I'll chill out and see if he gets in contact. If not, oh well! I hear you. Just wait and you'll find out soon enough.
ChessPieceFace Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Hopefully you've learned a lesson about spreading so early. You had sex with a guy and trust him so little that you're questioning his motives based on less than a day of lost communicating. Blows my mind that people are so casual about sex and then wonder why things like this happen. Also, your response to him seemed to send the wrong signals. Saying "why??" with 2 question marks indicates something a lot different than "why?" or maybe even "why? :)" Assuming that he isn't just a player, maybe he got the wrong signal from that double question mark.
Survivor12 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Is this the same guy you posted about a few weeks ago--the one who told you after you had sex that his exgf is coming back & he is wanting to try to get back with her? Also, have you gone out with other co-workers or is this same guy that you've posted about in all of your former posts? This background is relevant in offering insight and advice.
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