Stone cold Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I just can't shake the sadness and anxiety... It's been 4 months since I got dumped. She seemed to have moved on just fine. Even got a new boyfriend after pretty much 4-6 weeks (rebound?) (lied to me about it the last time I spoke with her). I went strict no contact since Jan 2 What I've done to get over her: -hooked up with a stranger (not proud of this) -deleted all emails/pics and contact info -threw away all gifts/cards/letters -she deleted me from Facebook + i deleted most of her friends except brother -ignored her birthday as well (hoping it would get to her emotionally, but hasn't 5 days later) She broke up with me over the phone after a 5 yr relationship like a coward (over my not being able to afford as many outings as she wanted and multiple random reasons). Refused to see me in person because "she will start crying." Said she still cares about me and knows I'm in pain (but she lied to me about seeing someone new). Gave me mixed messages about whether we would have a chance. Said that if she thinks that I was a good boyfriend she will be back... I have a date this week, which I really don't want to go on, but I'm just forcing myself to get out and keep my mind off stuff. Looking for a job too since I'm a new grad. I just want this to stop. I feel so hurt and betrayed. She was my first love (I wasn't hers)... I think I'm in the "sorrow" stage of the breakup. I want to stop frequenting these sites and searching how to get my ex back because honestly I don't want to channel that energy towards her anymore. I want my life back. Any more great suggestions/comments would be appreciated.
fallenheart Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Sounds to me like you're doing the right thing by nailing new women. Definitely go on your date. It doesn't matter if you like her or not. Just take her home! And delete your ex's brother from facebook. Why keep him around? Go full no contact. If you have a mutual friend....cut them off. No reminders of her. EVER. Just cut everything about her out of your life. Don't dwell on her reasons or what she's feeling. It doesn't matter. The sad fact is she doesn't like you anymore. If she did, she'd still be with her. Her excuses are just empty lies. She's with someone else now. She's forgotten you. Go get some tail. That should help! 1
purplereigncb Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Your right on track... progressing more quickly than most. Considering your relationship was 5 years long. Good job
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