Driftking102 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Been with this girl almost ten months we have done everything but sex. She wants to make all the moves. How do u know she's ready to move to the next level? She is calling my debt ours, my credit cards ours, and pretty much everything I know that's mine has turned into ours. I'm hoping this means we are moving onto the next level. We hangout almost every single day/talk on the phone/text. I want to move to the next level
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Have a discussion with her about it, nothing heavy, but to see where she stands. Be open to what she has to say. It sounds like things are progressing fine, don't try to push for one thing or another too early as this might be where you end up pushing her away. 1
Author Driftking102 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Okay. She wants me to stop worrying about how much time we spend together and when she's going to come to my house just to hangout and not have sex. It's annoying as hell. I only mentioned the house thing once today but that was cuz it was spring break next week and thought I'd leave the invitation open. I really like her and am learning a lot of stuff. I really like her and think she maybe the one. We've talked about kids and marriage before but she is taking this at her own pace. I'm really trying hard not to make any moves but dropping hints here and there to let her know I'm still interested. Hope this is okay. I definatly don't want this to die out and her not contact me ever again cuz I'm boring when I'm really not. I think she's really special and should deserve the best of the best and I'm glad she's chosen me. I'm also the primary bread winner I. The relationship so I think that's another reason she likes me not only for my personality but because I get things done and am not a stoner like most guys I know. 1
clia Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Why don't you ask her? Ten months is a long relationship to not have had sex yet. Have you ever discussed it? How old are you guys?
Author Driftking102 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) Why don't you ask her? Ten months is a long relationship to not have had sex yet. Have you ever discussed it? How old are you guys? Yes we have discussed it. I almost had sex with her once with her but forgot the condoms doh. My bad, but we were both pretty drunk. I am 23 and she is 22. She brings up wanting to have sex with me but i don't know whats holding her back. I am fine with just waiting until she is ready. I am definatly not waiting until marriage unless she wants to. I want to have sex with someone special before marriage. I think marriage is all fine and dandy but one should be able to have sex lots of times during the day when not being married. I am a virgin and have never had sex before. She has only had sex twice and second time she was abused i guess. Edited March 13, 2013 by Driftking102
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) Yes we have discussed it. I almost had sex with her once with her but forgot the condoms doh. My bad, but we were both pretty drunk. I am 23 and she is 22. She brings up wanting to have sex with me but i don't know whats holding her back. I am fine with just waiting until she is ready. I am definatly not waiting until marriage unless she wants to. I want to have sex with someone special before marriage. I think marriage is all fine and dandy but one should be able to have sex lots of times during the day when not being married. I am a virgin and have never had sex before. She has only had sex twice and second time she was abused i guess. That's why she's hesitant. Give her time to feel comfortable with it, and don't forget the rubbers. Take this one slow and steady. I know it sounds appealing, but It's not as great if it isn't with someone special, and the feeling isn't mutual. The two have to be present in the situation and both have to really want it for there to be the fanciful experience that you're expecting. Edited March 13, 2013 by iKING
Author Driftking102 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 That's why she's hesitant. Give her time to feel comfortable with it, and don't forget the rubbers. Take this one slow and steady. I know it sounds appealing, but It's not as great if it isn't with someone special, and the feeling isn't mutual. The two have to be present in the situation and both have to really want it for there to be the fanciful experience that you're expecting. I know. i just really want this relationship to work out. I really really like her and think shes the greatest in the world. I would never do anything bad to hurt her, but I just want to make sure shes still interested in me and that's why i give little hints here and there to let her know I'm still interested. I give her the space she needs now and am really trying to respect her and her wishes. I just hope I am doing all the right things. She still hangs out with me almost everyday when she can and she calls and texts me everyday so I am guessing that is a good sign and I am doing something right.
PogoStick Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) There's a book you need to read: "Just F#ck me!" Seriously. She's ready but you're not man enough to do it. 23 y/o. 10 months. She wants a man and you're failing. She's not going to wait forever. Edited March 13, 2013 by PogoStick
Author Driftking102 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 There's a book you need to read: "Just F#ck me!" Seriously. She's ready but you're not man enough to do it. 23 y/o. 10 months. She wants a man and you're failing. She's not going to wait forever. I don't think I'm failing. She wouldnt be spending lots of time with me if I was. I already told her I want to have sex with her but she wants to make the moves. I would have already made the move if she would let me.
LuckyShades Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Man, you let her get the credit card before sex. Some people are just golden hearted. But sometimes you just know when it feels right
dchin1985 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) Congrat to you that things have been progressing. Regarding sex, some gals like the men to lead, while some wants it to come slowly on her terms. I have experienced both. I understand maybe for your gal, she wants to take it slow on her terms, i think the best way for you is to not push it but playfully flirt with her and slowly open her up. A bit of physical contact and flirting can slowly open her up and makes it easier for her to accept you two being physical. Just be PLAYFUL! Don't think about sex too much, however you should just enjoy being physical with her and have you guys smiling to eachother! In my view, sex is just not the ultimate goal of me dating a women. I prefer to find compatibility before having sex (I am talking about dating for a potential mate here ), it just much much better this way. First, having sex with the right person is so much better than having sex with the wrong person. I prefer using my time on finding the right person then wasting my time on the wrong person then having to use my time to resolve all the issue with the wrong person. Second, thinking this way makes you seen as not desperate in the eye of the women, which is very important in my experience. Women seems happier and acceptable this way in my experience. But bro, it comes with experience also... So good luck and all the best! Edited March 13, 2013 by dchin1985
dchin1985 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 There's a book you need to read: "Just F#ck me!" Seriously. She's ready but you're not man enough to do it. As much of a "man" someone think he is, sadly I am sure there are many occassion he will fail it anyway. It can be either you two don't feel right for each other, she doesn't feel comfortable, she is stressed out with unresolved issues or she wants to see your reaction (i.e. your ture self when sex is denied)... Just not within your control sometime, the best you can do is to make her feel comfortable without pushing it.
PogoStick Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I already told her I want to have sex with her but she wants to make the moves. I would have already made the move if she would let me. Also, read some other things you wrote like "I don't want to wait for marriage, unless she wants to." and "I just want to make sure shes still interested in me". Sorry my directness offends you but I'm giving you the info you need to succeed. She's already had sex, says she wants to have sex with you, but you haven't sealed the deal in 10 months. How is that success? She wants a MAN, someone who is confident and will lead her. If your relationship was solid then you wouldn't be concerned. You need to develop your masculine nature, so stop being dismissive and checkout that book. You might as well get The Superior Man while you're at it.
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