BrokenHearted101 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 If you want the whole back story, it's here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/378187-he-wants-get-lunch-what-s-going. Shortest summary I can mange: Boyfriend of 11 months and I broke up a few weeks ago, he basically told me he never wanted to see me again, and couldn't talk to me again for a long time. A week of NC...He texted me. I didn't reply, he deleted me days later on fb for attention, that got me so I called him, he called back, we talked, ended up going out for lunch last weekend (his idea). He was tense but at the end told he loves me and will always love me. I didn't hear from him all weekend, then yesterday, got a text: "What are you up to today?" I didn't reply for several hours, and when I did..he never responded. Then last night, he called. He acted like he was quote "calling to see how I'm doing" When I said I was good..he kept talking. He informed me, "I'm not leaving for spring break until friday, so if you need to meet up, we can." When I told him I'm fine, he sputtered, "Are you sure? We could meet up before then." We talked for about 30 minutes, and he told me a number of things..including how he misses me. And loves me. He also out of the blue blurted, "Are you..seeing anyone?" He asked if I could get breakfast with him this morning. So we met up early this morning, and immeaditly the energy was more "intense" than friday. He reached across the table and held my hand a couple times, then took my hand and guided it across his chin when making a joke about sand paper. When I went back to my car, he followed me, and when we hugged goodbye, he said, "I missed this so much, too" And then leaned in and kissed me. A couple straight minutes of kissing later, i told him bye, and drove off. I haven't heard from him since (although I know he had a couple of exams he was taking today and worried about,so I know he's still in class). Anyone make any sense of this? Is it sounding like he wants me back? Or what the heck is going on? Tara and Fungus: You were keeping up with my other thread..so you probably are the most informed on the current events of this story.
fungusamungus Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 My opinion on this stays consistent. I'm not really surprised at this at all.
OwlSoul Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Anyone make any sense of this? Is it sounding like he wants me back? Or what the heck is going on? Looks like he is not sure, unless he is a douche and is intentionally playing mind games with you. Balancing between not liking you and liking like a pendulum. I think he is not contacting you after the meeting for days because the meetings are too intense and fill all the emotions he needs. He might not realise it though. If I were you I'd try to keep the meetings and the physical contact up 2-3 times less intense. 30 minutes of talk? Better to make it 10-15 minutes and etc.
Author BrokenHearted101 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) My opinion on this stays consistent. I'm not really surprised at this at all. The weird thing is..tuesday, I texted him that night and we had an okay conversation and he said "I love you" and all that. Wednesday..I heard NOTHING from him all day. As I was falling asleep I got a text "Goodnight". I wrote him back, he never replied. I didn't heart anything from him all day yesterday, and last night in a moment of stupidity and weakness called him to tell him goodnight as i was falling asleep. He was at home (I could hear Luke, the 10 month old puppy), and told me quote: "Well, i'm gonna go finish packing now, because Franco and I (his best friend, who he's going on spring break with) are leaving early tomorrow morning, but i will text you tomorrow. promise." He was just...meh? He didn't seem like he really cared either way if he talked to me or didn't talk to me. I asked what he was doing with Luke while he's gone. He said, "Oh yeah, i was gonna ask you..Do you think you could come over here and watch Luke, until you leave on your trip (he knows I'm going away for break too)? If not, it's okay--I'm going to board him." If he doesnt ever want to get back together with me, why would he trust me with his dog, and coming in his apartment with keys for days? I told him no, because I'm leaving for spring break today too. I don't really know what to think. We had a lovely tuesday, and our conversation monday night was very... "touchy feely" if that makes sense. But last night, he seemed non-plussed either way. He and his friend are road tripping to california for spring break. They're staying with a family friend, and his best friend has a girlfriend (who they're going to visit), so I know there will be drinking but probably no orgies involved I'm not going to text or call him. But I really feel confused. Edited March 15, 2013 by BrokenHearted101
TaraMaiden Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Previous thread. Post #9. That's my take on this, and I'm sticking to it.
TaraMaiden Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 dafuq....?? he's leaving early tomorrow morning and on only NOW he asks if you can look after his puppy?? (but don't worry, if you say no, boarding kennels it is....! That's an added expense though.... ) yeah. Post #9.
Author BrokenHearted101 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) dafuq....?? he's leaving early tomorrow morning and on only NOW he asks if you can look after his puppy?? . Yeah, that's just what I'm saying. I KNOW (based on past behavior and how much he loves that dog) he already made kennel reservations (he had to have--you have to book a few days in advance. and for this guy, money isn't really a problem), so why would he suddenly ask if i could watch him for a couple days? If that was his plan/agenda...he would have mentioned it on tuesday. That's why Tara I really don't think fwb or dogsitting are his agenda. None of it really makes sense, either way. It's just..befuddling I guess. Edited March 15, 2013 by BrokenHearted101
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