Love stinks yeah yea Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I'm taking a class that is taught by a cute, friendly, quirky professor who is around my age (30's).. He has said that he is shy, but I have been noticing that he talks to the other women in my class no problem. For some reason, he doesn't engage with me like the others. One day, I saw him in the hallway and he looked at me but looked away and didn't even smile, even though he is a friendly guy. I so wanted to smile and say hi, but didn't because I'm pathetic..I've said hi to other professors no problem, and they've smiled and said hi back, but with him , it's totally different..He was all serious looking and I got butterflies when I saw him..Anywho, I felt him watching me one day when he was done talking to one girl in the class like he wanted to talk to me as well, and again, he didn't. I am also shy and can't bring myself to talk to him, so that doesn't help. I also noticed that when I responded to another classmate's answer he didn't even look at me even though I was talking...What the hell? I was like this mofo is totally ignoring me! I feel like he avoids looking at me. So I decided to email him to ask him questions about the class and that I liked the class,etc. He responded back, very friendly, and it wasn't just a one sentence message like my other profs do. It was very engaging which was cool because he is not like that to me in class. He even said he liked having me in his class which I found odd. From his behavior, I thought he didn't like me and I thought maybe I intimidated him which is stupid because I don't do anything. I feel like I want to keep talking to him through emails, and not just about school stuff. He is a very unique guy and revealed interests that I also like. Not sure where I'm going with this, but I am attracted to him and sometimes I think there is a slight chance there is some kind of weird attraction there, but I dunno. You know how you have a gut feeling or an intuition.. It could totally be on my part because I am attracted to him. I just need someone else's opinion..Thanks.
EasyHeart Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Professors can lose their careers if they date a student. Be respectful of this fact and do not push things with your prof. You are setting him up for a world of hurt. Wait until the class is over (or better, wait until you graduate), then ask him out. 3
TaserTag Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I wouldn't try to pursue anything romantic until you're out of his class. Even if you're both a bit older and the same age, it's (at the least) frowned upon to be dating one of your students. Plus, you don't want to have to see him every day in class if things get weird in any way. If he is attracted to you, I'd guess that's why he seems to be ignoring you most of the time (not wanting to complicate the teacher-student dynamic or risk his job, especially if he's noticed that you seem to be interested in him already). If I were you and looking to start a relationship with him, I'd remain friendly and interested throughout the course (keep emailing and participating) and then invite him out for lunch or something when the course is over... 1
Author Love stinks yeah yea Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Great advice..I wouldn't dream of doing anything that would jeopardize his career..Thanks to those who replied:)
Radagast Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 His behaviour would suggest interest that he dare not follow up on, given that you are his student and his career would be at risk. Maintaining a platonic friendship once you are no longer his student, until you graduate, may be an acceptable compromise. Once you have graduated, he would be free to respond to any approaches you made if he were interested.
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