thewrongonee Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Hello all and thanks for reading I will cut right the chase, I met this awesome girl in my math class and we started talking in class/out of classes every now and then. Because of her personality and her humor, my attraction towards her sky rocketed ( we would laugh and make jokes etc). After few classes, i managed to get her phone number and last night we talked by texting for the first time. Conversation was good, we talked about her trip to the dentist (got her wisdom tooth token out) and so on. Did not try to flirt , dident want to push it lol. What i really need help with: The conversation ended with her telling me she was heading to bed ( it was almost 12), and that her tooth was killing. she said we will talk tommoro etc and said our goodnighs to each other. I know the steps towards asking girls out are very crucial, so i do not want to mess this up, should I wait for her to text me... or should I just text her? furthermore, what should i say.. spark a joke and talk about what... i personally want to ask her out, but i dont want to seem desperate.
MrCastle Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I will cut right the chase, I met this awesome girl in my math class and we started talking in class/out of classes every now and then. Because of her personality and her humor, my attraction towards her sky rocketed ( we would laugh and make jokes etc). After few classes, i managed to get her phone number and last night we talked by texting for the first time.[/Quote] Congrats. Hope it works out for you. Conversation was good, we talked about her trip to the dentist (got her wisdom tooth token out) and so on.[/Quote] Come on. Don't talk about boring stuff like that. Ask a question about how she's feeling, make a joke of some sort, move on to something more interesting. Did you at least flirt? Did not try to flirt , dident want to push it lol.[/Quote] *shakes head* I know the steps towards asking girls out are very crucial, so i do not want to mess this up[/Quote] It's not crucial. Don't get inside your own head. Just ask her out. If she likes you, she will accept, if she doesn't, she will reject, no matter how you try to approach it or put a ribbon on it. should I wait for her to text me Yeah, wait for her to text you Make your move guy. Don't be afraid to be flirtatious and bold. I see "friend zone" written all over this if you don't start taking action. 3
iKING Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Asking her out will not seem desperate unless you come off as desperate. It can show confidence as well. Just ask her out when the time feels right and don't make a huge deal out of it. Making it seem as though the answer to that question is a life-ending answer would make you come off as desperate. Play it cool, and just be you. This isn't a PUA forum, we don't typically give out manipulation tactics.
clia Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Call her on the phone tomorrow and ask her out on a date. Name a specific day and activity. (i.e. dinner on Friday). If she declines, offer up another option. If she declines again, it's a no go unless she comes up wtih a different alternative. 1
Author thewrongonee Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 I dont think ill ask her on her a date yet, she still has to recover from her wisdom tooth being pulled out. but yeah i will try my best to talk to her and flirt. I AM terrible at flirting tho, ahaha. I don't know what to even say. i am afraid to mess it up, she really hot lol.
MrCastle Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I dont think ill ask her on her a date yet, she still has to recover from her wisdom tooth being pulled out. [/Quote] What the--JUST ASK HER OUT MAN! but yeah i will try my best to talk to her and flirt. I AM terrible at flirting tho, ahaha. I don't know what to even say. [/Quote] I'm not a supporter of canned material (pre-written lines) so I can not give you anything to use. My advice to you is to just let things play out naturally. When you see an opportunity to say something funny or slightly sexual, take it. i am afraid to mess it up, she really hot lol. You know what? This super hot girl is human. She burps and farts. She poops. Sometimes nasty poops too. Her vagina, it smells sometimes. When she wakes up she has morning breath, and messy hair. She may have a zit or two you might not see once she puts the make up on. Hot girls are people too. Not mythical creatures. Treat them as such, don't be intimidated by them, and make your move. 2
JMCOSU838 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Hello all and thanks for reading I will cut right the chase, I met this awesome girl in my math class and we started talking in class/out of classes every now and then. Because of her personality and her humor, my attraction towards her sky rocketed ( we would laugh and make jokes etc). After few classes, i managed to get her phone number and last night we talked by texting for the first time. Conversation was good, we talked about her trip to the dentist (got her wisdom tooth token out) and so on. Did not try to flirt , dident want to push it lol. What i really need help with: The conversation ended with her telling me she was heading to bed ( it was almost 12), and that her tooth was killing. she said we will talk tommoro etc and said our goodnighs to each other. I know the steps towards asking girls out are very crucial, so i do not want to mess this up, should I wait for her to text me... or should I just text her? furthermore, what should i say.. spark a joke and talk about what... i personally want to ask her out, but i dont want to seem desperate. I'll add to the chorus. Ask her out. She either likes you and she'll say yes or she doesn't and she'll say no. If you sit and think about it too much you'll just talk yourself out of doing it and eventually another guy who isn't as afraid will ask her instead. 1
Author thewrongonee Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 I know i want to, but damn it is hard lol!!. Okay well - the game plan, ill text her tonight.. flirt a bit then ask her to go to movies, ( not sure if that is a date etc). but, If things do go well, ill ask her out afterwords. what do u guys think? If that is a bad idea, let me know !! 1
JMCOSU838 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I know i want to, but damn it is hard lol!!. Okay well - the game plan, ill text her tonight.. flirt a bit then ask her to go to movies, ( not sure if that is a date etc). but, If things do go well, ill ask her out afterwords. what do u guys think? If that is a bad idea, let me know !! That sounds like a reasonable plan to me.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Movies are a bad first date idea. I would pick something where you can interact and talk to each other without a lot of distraction. A meal, dessert, ice cream, coffee, a walk, a nice winebar if you're both legal...you get the idea. A choice that allows for lots of chatting and flirting is ideal. Make it clear that it's a date, not just hanging out as friends. Call her up and ask her out...today! Not next week or whenever all the stars finally align. The longer you wait at this point, the worse things will probably be for you. 2
outsidethebox Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 My personal opinion is just soothe her with some talk about going out for some ice cream to ease the pain and make plans for the next time getting together while you're with her, etc. And of course stay in touch if you don't see her inbetween. 1
Author thewrongonee Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 I'm not sure if shes going to agree with ice cream, lol. The main reason I chose movies is because its still quite early and I need to see if shes even into me. Edit; after the movies, i was panning on going somewhere to eat, such as whitespot etc a restraunt
MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 My personal opinion is just soothe her with some talk about going out for some ice cream to ease the pain and make plans for the next time getting together while you're with her, etc. And of course stay in touch if you don't see her inbetween. Genius. (10 characters) 1
outsidethebox Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 cutiepie, castle, and I pointed you in about the same direction, you're not listening whatsoever. Re-read cutiepie's post very carefully. Word to the wise.
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I'm not sure if shes going to agree with ice cream, lol. The main reason I chose movies is because its still quite early and I need to see if shes even into me. Edit; after the movies, i was panning on going somewhere to eat, such as whitespot etc a restraunt You should probably go with the ice cream, getting wisdom teeth removed leaves you sore and hopped up on 800mg IBs, unless you guys are really young and she got them removed before they became solid. The ice cream idea was pretty smooth, give it a try I say. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 cutiepie, castle, and I pointed you in about the same direction, you're not listening whatsoever. Re-read cutiepie's post very carefully. Word to the wise. Honestly, there's not much you can do when someone insists on digging a hole in the dating graveyard. I've never really understood the concept of asking for advice because you lack experience, and then telling the very people who've been on hundreds, if not thousands, of dates and who try to help you to avoid all the typical pitfalls, why their suggestions won't work but an obvious pitfall will. 2
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Honestly, there's not much you can do when someone insists on digging a hole in the dating graveyard. I've never really understood the concept of asking for advice because you lack experience, and then telling the very people who've been on hundreds, if not thousands, of dates and who try to help you to avoid all the typical pitfalls, why their suggestions won't work but a pitfall will. We all have to learn from our own mistakes I suppose. I hope he does choose to take your guy's advice on the matter. I thought the ice cream idea was rather clever given the situation
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