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I'm in a bit of a pickle here. I'm a freshman in college and while eating breakfeast in the caf, I notice this cute chick sitting all by herself looking a bit lonely. So somehow I worked up the balls to go over and ask if I can join her. We start talking and I'm digging her and it seems she is interested, I crack the jokes and come off casual. Now mind you all of this is very uncharacteristic of me, I'm usually the shy guy. Anyways, she says she has to get back to her dorm so I ask if she has a cell and I get the number and we part ways. Now I'm trying to figure out a couple of things, 1, if she's really interested in me or if she is just being nice, and 2, how long should wait to call her to set up a date or whatever. I'm rather inexperienced with girls. Thanx in advance.

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If she gave you her number I'm guessing she's interested, but you'll never find out unless you call her. Don't play those little games that you have to wait 3 days to call. If you feel like calling her then GO FOR IT!

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keep it casual...like, ask her if she wants to grab lunch or some coffee. just see how that goes...and if it

goes well...then u'll know she's interested ;-)

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Now what?? CALL AND ASK HER OUT!!!

 

Don't call like the next day, but anywhere from 2 - 5 days is fine. Keep it short, and set up something like a coffee date (again casual).

 

If she gave you her number chances are she is interested, but as it was already said...you won't know until you call and go farther. Now stop reading my post and do it....

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope you aren't still reading this.

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Originally posted by gd1039

Now what?? CALL AND ASK HER OUT!!!

 

Don't call like the next day, but anywhere from 2 - 5 days is fine. Keep it short, and set up something like a coffee date (again casual).

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with calling the next day. Sometimes waiting too long to call can make me uninterested because it makes me think that person is either not interested or playing one of those 2-5 days rule, which is sooooooo immature. When they do that they're not keeping it real.

 

 

BY THE WAY, CALL HER :p

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Hey thanx for the replies. I called her up and we got some dinner at the caf together. Right now I'm just trying to figure out if she likes me as more than a friend. I mean she seemed friendly and interested but I don't know if she wants a relationship, (I don't know maybe I'm just paranoid or over-analytical). Anyways after dinner she said she was gonna go visit a male friend that is a sophmore that she knew from high school. I also mentioned that she should come and hang out at my dorm sometime and she said "definitely". So I dunno where I stand. Should I call her to do something again or should I back off because she'd rather see her other male friend? Any advice?

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I would chill and call her in a few days to do something again. Take it slow and get to know her a little . . . then you'll be able to better tell how she feels.

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Yeah, if it went like that maybe you should wait until she call. You don't want to over do it :)

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I'm not saying 2-5 days are hard and fast rules. Infact, a lot of guys think a week is the right amount of time to wait before you call. Me personally, I think that calling the next day comes off as kind of desperate. I say 2-5 days because I wouldn't want to call the very next day (unless I completely hit it off with that girl) and waiting 5 days to call is getting pretty far away.

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Did she ask for your number?

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Yeah she has it and called me last night to ask me something about a class we both take. It wasn't a real solid question so I'm wondering if it was just an excuse to talk to me...

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This girl likes you my friend. The ball is in your field now. Play it safe. In soccer they say: " short accurate low passes" for midfielders when the ball is in their half. It sounds like you you need to know the rules of the soccer game to be a successful player.

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Damn, soccer's not my game. Can you explain that in (american) football terms? lol :laugh:

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****I'm not saying 2-5 days are hard and fast rules. Infact, a lot of guys think a week is the right amount of time to wait before you call. Me personally, I think that calling the next day comes off as kind of desperate. I say 2-5 days because I wouldn't want to call the very next day (unless I completely hit it off with that girl) and waiting 5 days to call is getting pretty far away.******

 

 

 

If I haven't heard from a guy within 3 days of when I gave him my number, then I think that he doesn't like me and isn't going to call. I do not think calling the next day shows you are desperate, I would rather hear from him the next day, instead of being on pins and needles for days on end.

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The idea is: Play it safe and be in control of your nerves. Try always to be yourself and present it as who you truly are. Don't ever try to impress through things you don't have or you cannot afford. She will like you more for who you are and that will bring her even closer. That is exactly what you want my friend. Good luck.

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I think us women are just plain confusing :p

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Originally posted by oh_elizabeth76

 

If I haven't heard from a guy within 3 days of when I gave him my number, then I think that he doesn't like me and isn't going to call. I do not think calling the next day shows you are desperate, I would rather hear from him the next day, instead of being on pins and needles for days on end.

 

This inspires me to start a new post (which I will).

 

Back to what you said though, don't those pins and needles kinda keep you excited and interested though? Its like when you're a kid and want some candy but can't have it, then you want it more...

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Maybe for some women, but me, I am impatient.....I hate to be kept waiting.

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Originally posted by gd1039

 

 

This inspires me to start a new post (which I will).

 

Back to what you said though, don't those pins and needles kinda keep you excited and interested though? Its like when you're a kid and want some candy but can't have it, then you want it more...

 

Definitely not in my case. I like someone who shows he is interested. When someone plays those "hard to get games" it just makes me lose complete interest.

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My point exactly!!!!!! :D

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Damnit I have the worst luck...

So today was the first day of classes and I'm sitting in my english class and in comes the girl, I was like YES we have a class together! So we got to talking and she asked me to come and help her buy some books, so I said ok and we got them and then hung out at my dorm. I was really excited but then she mentioned her...you guessed it! BOYFRIEND. In my head I was like WHAT THE F*CK! She gives me her number, we go to dinner, and then hangs out with me practically all day and then she mentions her boyfriend. I feel completely played. I would have thought that she would catch on that I wanted a relationship. Sigh, I dunno what to do, I mean she's a nice friend, but I want something more... I'm so pissed.

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Damn, she called me again today to hang out, what the f*ck...

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Now you know where you stand my friend: Just a friend. You need to look somewhere else for someone more than" just a friend". I don't think you are a believer in "Friends with benefits" HAHAHA?.

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OK this post may seem a bit negative or argumentative, sorry for that, it's not meant to be ... I'm just a clueless outsider trying to learn from what I read here, and this is an honest question.

 

I do honestly feel for you Niccolo, I've been there.

 

Anyway, after Niccolo's first few posts most people agreed that the girl was probably interested in him, that he should call her, etc. Unfortunately this turned out not to be the case, so what went wrong? Was this girl unfairly "leading him on", or are these things just inherently hard/impossible to interpret?

 

Can I emphasise that I am *not* criticising any of the people who posted encouraging Niccolo to call her etc. (For what it's worth, I would have thought these people were right, but I'm not really "qualified". :-) ) I'm just curious to know where people think the wires got crossed.

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