Is she interested in me?

[cman28]

I was invited to a memorial service by this hot girl I been crushing. At the service, I kept trying to find ways to talk to her about her dad who died. I knew him as well since we were all apart of the same meetup group. She was hugging and smiling at me a lot. I was leaving so gave a half hug and she pulled me down for a full hug. When I got home, I gave her my number and said she can call me if she wants to talk on FB. I also mentioned that I lost my mom when I was her age. I'm 48 and she is 28 I believe. She said

"I'm so happy you were able to come. I'm sorry to hear of your loss as well. It is tough losing someone you love who is close to you. My number is xx-xxx-xxx"

It has been a day and she hasn't called. Do you think I should call her??

[Keenly]

This was at her dads funeral? ......... What?

[creighton0123]

This is fresh out of "No Strings Attached". Are you Ashton Kutcher?

[cman28]

Can I get a real answer??

[iKING]

Is this out of a funeral crasher's dialogue?

 

Okay, advice. She's in a vulnerable position, she needs time to grieve her loss and you being there for her would be a very nice thing for you to do. Don't try to play games, be sincere, and do what you feel as though is the right thing to do. Give her a call and talk with her about anything, if she wants to talk about what happened, let her, but try not to bring it up too much.

[Cutiepie1976]

OK then. Allow me to try.

 

I doubt she was looking for a hook up with some guy who could be her dad at her own dad's funeral. Call me crazy, but that's not why she invited you to his funeral or hugged you. FFS, you were her dad's friend! I am totally creeped out. I can only imagine how she will feel when she realizes your fake sympathy and words of understanding are just a ploy to get in her panties while she is reeling from a major loss.

[normal person]

She said

"I'm so happy you were able to come. I'm sorry to hear of your loss as well. It is tough losing someone you love who is close to you. My number is xx-xxx-xxx"

It has been a day and she hasn't called. Do you think I should call her??

 

If you end up calling her, don't do it because you're "crushing" on her, do it for legitimate support. If you feel compelled to actually comfort someone without any sort of ulterior motive in play, then there's no reason not to. There's going to be a period of time where this girl is anything but ready to think about romance. When my mom died I was happy to know people were checking in frequently even if I didn't feel like responding, they understood, my then-girlfriend thought I'd snap out of it after a while and was pissed when I was emotionally drained following the whole thing. This girl's emotions are probably in a crazy flux so keep that in mind.

 

If you're worried that calling her might spoil your chances with her or something, then I don't really know where to start.

Edited March 12, 2013 by normal person