irc333 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I was curious, are some women completely oblivious, or blocking a certain experience out of their mind when something occurs with the men they're dating? This had made me recently wonder, because I had a female friend ask me, "Do I seem that I lead men on?" And I had to be honest with her, and told her, "Yeah, sometimes you do." And she was like "really? how so?" I reminded her of the time where a man....who was in her outdoors group, ask that they carpool together for a group camp out. He was in an RV...and they SHARED the same LIVING quarters together. He was starting to "act" like a boyfriend around her at around the campfire, getting her drinks,e tc..... And then they ere driving home together, he asked that they make a detour to talk a walk at the beach...she concurred, and they were doing so...at that moment, he asked if "she could be his girlfriend" Of course, she turned him down...had no attraction to him in "that way" whatsoever. That didn't end pretty, but that was an extreme example I had to give. She hade veryone in the group thinking they were dating. And she's like "Really? Hmmm, maybe I won't do that next time"
sweetkiwi Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Yeah some people are oblivious how they affect others. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Yeah some people are oblivious how they affect others. Yes, yes, yes... I have a very intelligent ex who often says things that is patronizing or condescending, but only catches herself after the fact. At the time, she is "clueless" that what she is saying is not flattering or supportive, but then genuinely feels bad after being called on it. We can all be like that from time to time...just need to think before we do, say.
TaraMaiden Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 And some others either don't make their intentions clear or send mixed messages. It's not all on the woman, and the effect she has. Sometimes, the lack of confidence and social skills is a man thing. Put the two together and - what, it's her fault? 2
MrCastle Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 It really does depend on both parties sometimes...sometimes. Sometimes it really is on one party who is leading on the other person, with no realization whatsoever that they're leading them on. But other times one party is just interacting in a typical manner but the other person interprets it as more. "She said hello and gave me a hug when she saw me! We are dating :love:" So, sometimes it is the girl and her doing things she shouldn't be doing, but other times it's the guy who looks for more than what's actually there. 2
xxoo Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Share the RV means sleeping together? Or he offered her a cot, and assumed her acceptance meant that she was interested in him?
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