Hope737 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Hi guys, I recently broke up with my ex due to her cheating on me, I won't go into the full story as it's a long winded one. We've known eachother since we were 14, we're both 23 now so the attachment I feel to her is immense. We've been through A LOT together. It really is a shame it had to end like this. I can't do the no contact thing as we're in the same circle of friends, so the best I can do is limited contact. Oh yeah we're even going to be working together now as she has just got a job in my department of work. So getting over her is proving EXTREMELY difficult. Anyway I've not been going to the social gatherings I used to as she is always there. I can't bare to see her as just a friend, it crushes me. My ex texted me last night asking why I wasn't going. I'm running out of excuses now as I've not been turning up to these social gatherings for a few weeks now. Foolishly I said I was going on a date with another girl, which was a complete lie. Anyway later on last night she texted me again asking how the date went. I still haven't replied. Why on earth would she want to know? I reckon it's because she's completely over our relationship and is perhaps genuinely interested in how I'm doing. I know for sure that if she was going on a date with another guy I definitely would not want to know how it went as it'd hurt way too much to talk about it. What do you guys think?
Author Hope737 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Has anyone got an input? Just someone's opinion would be much appreciated.
cavalier99 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 (edited) No clue. What are you gaining by staying in touch with a cheater. Just go NC and heal you only have these questions because you are in contact. She might want to alleviate guilt and feel better if you are moving on with another girl. She doesn't care about you. It is about her. Cav Edited March 12, 2013 by cavalier99
Author Hope737 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Thanks Cavaileer99 I wish I could go no contact but I cant go no contact as we're in the same circle of friends and are going to be working together. I wish I could walk away but I can't.
Chi townD Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Why is she doing this? HI FRIEND ZONE!!!! YOU'RE LOOKING GREAT TODAY!!! Dude, she wants nothing more than to get you in the friend zone so she can stop feeling guilty about what she did. She would LOVE for you to start dating again because you both have the same circle of friends. I'm sure that after she did you wrong, those friends probably looked at her in a different light. But if you started dating, then the friends would be like, "Well, he's moving on and he's okay so everything is fine in the Land of Oz". One big happy family again. Dude, you seriously need to go complete no contact with her. If it limits the amount of time with your friends then so be it. This is about you and your healing process.
Thunderchild Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 What's wrong with you seeing friends without her being there. Invite them to your place, or set up a small group for a specific activity - bowling night etc
Author Hope737 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 She is ALWAYS there I'm afraid, my circle of friends, SHE'S THERE, EVEN AT WORK, SHE's THERE. No contact DOES NOT work in this case. I have to deal with her in life. Maybe I just have to accept that she's a part of my life no matter what. How crap eh!? Thanks for your input though guys!
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