ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 SJC2008, I am in the exact situation as you. Thawholigan, if you met me face to face, you would not know that I am unhappy. I only reveal my struggles to very close friends. The average person on the street would see me as a happy person. I never met someone who was happy when they were single as long as I was. You are autistic, how do you even know how you come across? Trust me, I didn't know for years . I still don't completely know! Saying that, no autistic person is the same - I of all people know that. But I'm guessing that social cues isn't one of your strong points otherwise you wouldn't be in social skill therapy like you said you were. (no shame in that, I had speech therapy for a decade). This is a thing that you guys say that I simply do not believe. "Oh, I come across happy, I'm always smiling and nobody knows". How exactly do you know that? I'm not convinced sadly. I'm willing to bet that people can see through it, even if you don't believe that to be true. Just like I have gotten to the point where I know that somebody is putting on a facade of happiness - if I can tell after years of not even being able to read the simplest social cues, how about other normal people?
Author Sun Devil Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Thawholigan , your advices are great, but the only problem is that I have a different mentality than you. Experiencing love is one of my greatest goals and I have had it for over a decade. It is not getting any better. I really do believe that life without love is not worth it. I dont understand how you just stopped caring. I know not to show it, but still I have it on the inside
Author Sun Devil Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 When I went to therapy, they analized their perception of me. I was viewed as someone who is optimistic and easy to get along with.
ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Thawholigan , your advices are great, but the only problem is that I have a different mentality than you. Experiencing love is one of my greatest goals and I have had it for over a decade. It is not getting any better. I really do believe that life without love is not worth it. I dont understand how you just stopped caring. I know not to show it, but still I have it on the inside I stopped allowing things to negatively influence me. I faced whatever ill feelings I had and accepted them without letting them dominate my insides. So you have a good pokerface. As an autistic person, I can tell you it is a fantastic ability to possess. But it doesn't solve your problem completely. You should ask for help about this. Explain to people how you can deal with being unhappy about this. Does it dominate your thoughts? When I went to therapy, they analized their perception of me. I was viewed as someone who is optimistic and easy to get along with. So was I . I'd say that you simply have to keep that up. What else can you say about yourself? What personality traits do you possess? What actual other goals do you have?
USMCHokie Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 When I went to therapy, they analized their perception of me. I was viewed as someone who is optimistic and easy to get along with. I'm glad you are so agreeable when getting analized... 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I'm glad you are so agreeable when getting analized... You are special 1
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