aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 So I just went on a school trip with a girl. We are in a student organization. She is the VP/Treasurer and she did a lot of planning for the trip. Her birthday is in a few days, so I went out and bought her a card. In it I just wrote happy birthday and then I told her I had fun on the trip and that I appreciate all of the hard work she did for the trip. The thing is though, we are all on spring break this week and back at our homes with our families. I wanted to send her a card for her birthday, so I looked up her address on the internet. Is this creepy or do you think she will consider this creepy? We are pretty good friends, but I want to start something more with her. Thanks
iKING Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Wait until she gets back or find a way to give it to her in person, otherwise it'd probably come off as a bit stalkerish. 4
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Yeah...about that....I already sent it out. haha
iKING Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Yeah...about that....I already sent it out. haha Game over. Hope for the best good sir! Maybe she'll be too oblivious to wonder how in the world you got her home address. 1
Lani Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Haha, dude... totally creepy. Too late now. Keep us 'posted' on how it goes. 1
Imajerk17 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 (edited) Yes it is a bad idea at best. It is also quite creepy. Here's the thing: You aren't going to make a woman feel attraction for you by doing things like that. That's just not how it works. If you have her number or email you can call or text or write her Happy Birthday. That would be really cool of you. (A call is best because then you can make plans if your conversation with her goes really well. But email if that's all you have is still nice.) If you just have her FB wish her a Happy Birthday a day in advance. "Hey thanks for the trip, Happy Birthday!" Edited March 12, 2013 by Imajerk17
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Well, ****. haha It's not like it's the first card I've ever given her. I got her a card after the last trip we went on. This is just the first one I had sent to her house. haha at least we're good friends and she probably won't even bring it up that I had it sent to her house. At least I hope she doesn't. haha
Lani Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Well, ****. haha It's not like it's the first card I've ever given her. I got her a card after the last trip we went on. This is just the first one I had sent to her house. haha at least we're good friends and she probably won't even bring it up that I had it sent to her house. At least I hope she doesn't. haha The card is really cute, I like that. But yeah, looking up her address on the internet is creepy.. Hopefully she just assumes you had it from another time.
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 So if she asks about how I knew her address, what should I say? Should I just say I googled her name? haha
iKING Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 So if she asks about how I knew her address, what should I say? Should I just say I googled her name? haha Definitely not. Tell her you got it from a friend or something I guess. There really aren't many ways you can salvage this one, just hope she doesn't question it.
Lani Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 So if she asks about how I knew her address, what should I say? Should I just say I googled her name? haha Ummm.. I'm not really sure. I guess you should, and make it into a joke like 'yeah, you should really look into that, someone creepy might find it..' while laughing. 1
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Alright, cool thanks. I'll let ya'll know how it goes.
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Thought of a great way to combine your last two suggestions. If she asks, Ill be like I just asked a friend. If she asks who, Ill just say I asked Jeeves. Pretty lame, but she'd probably laugh at it.
iKING Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Thought of a great way to combine your last two suggestions. If she asks, Ill be like I just asked a friend. If she asks who, Ill just say I asked Jeeves. Pretty lame, but she'd probably laugh at it. That's pretty smooth I must say, might soften the blow. 1
Lani Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Thought of a great way to combine your last two suggestions. If she asks, Ill be like I just asked a friend. If she asks who, Ill just say I asked Jeeves. Pretty lame, but she'd probably laugh at it. It's totally lame, but I'd probably laugh too. Please let us know what happens, I hate when people don't report back on these stories. Such a cliffhanger. 1
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 I will let you all know. It might be on Thursday since that's her birthday, or she might ask me when we get back from break. Thanks for all the suggestions.
ascendotum Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 The card is really cute, I like that. But yeah, looking up her address on the internet is creepy.. Hopefully she just assumes you had it from another time. I think a lot of women will find it creepy. They will see the gesture in a different light when a guy knows their house address more so than their FB address (as a friend it would be highly unlikely he would be barred from her online FB life which can be much more intimate insight into life then her letter box), but the reality is there is not a great difference. Its not there is any sort of skullduggery or sleuthing involved to look up a phone book, but if a guy that she is not attracted to takes that 5 mins of trouble it could easily freak her because she had no control over the interaction. I do think it would have been better to hand the card to her before the break to be on the safe side, but hopefully she likes you enough to be fine getting a thank you card from you regardless.
youaremysunshine Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I don't think the address look up is creepy for snail mail. I did it recently for a friend who just had a baby.
Author aal763 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Plus, I mean, I just asked her the address of the President's apartment. So, I mean, maybe she'll just think I did the same to her.
Calvin's wagon Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Hi! First of all, I strongly dislike lying (except in exceptional circumstances), so I won't advise you to lie to her. So I'd like to ask you why didn't you ask her or any of her friends for her address? If you didn't ask her/them because you wanted to make sure it'd be a surprise, I'd tell her that when the subject comes up. Also, I wish you best of luck with you pursuing something more than a friendship! 1
The Outlaw Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I think that as long as it's not a constant thing, say like sending out cards, flowers et al to her on a constant basis, it's alright at least.
truth_seeker Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Thought of a great way to combine your last two suggestions. If she asks, Ill be like I just asked a friend. If she asks who, Ill just say I asked Jeeves. Pretty lame, but she'd probably laugh at it. I found this to be amusing
Author aal763 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Sorry for not reporting back quickly. However I got great news. The girl never even questioned me about it. She just said Thank You and laughed a little. To make things better, I asked her out on a date and she said yes. So I'd say it all turned out pretty good. Thanks for the advice on everything. Rob 1
Lani Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Hooray!!!! Congratulations!! Good luck with the rest of it
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