missjones4812 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 So basically I need help with my situation. This is my first time on here and my first thread. I was dating this guy for almost 3 yrs. We had a wonderful relationship. Similar interests, made each other laugh, took care of each other etc. He was the love of my life, we had been planning to get married! We even had a child together almost a year ago. He was a wonderful father as well. So about a month ago, I caught him with a girl who he works with in the mailroom of our building kissing. I went looking for him when he disappeared while I was putting our child to sleep. So of course I was devastated (still am). I was up the entire night thinking, finally deciding to tell him I would forgive, forget and we could get through this. It wasn't worth throwing my family away over one indiscretion. He told me that they had hung out a few times outside of work, while I was working and he got his mom to watch our child. He decided that it would never work, he packed his things and said he was staying with a friend. Come to find out, he moved in with this girl the same day he left us. I have reached out to him several times, asking him why he did this, asking him to come back and try to keep our family together. His reply is "I guess I was just unhappy. I am not gonna stay where I am mot happy." WTH?? Let me mention that never once did he mention he was unhappy, nor give any indication that things were different. Looking back, I see now that he started acting shady when he started hanging out with that girl (by the way she is 23 and he is 32 and she has a 4 year old child of her own). Everyone in both our families, his friends, my friends and our mutual friends are completely shocked. No one saw this coming, and no one thought he was capable of ever doing anything like this. I am in a lot of pain, for what I have lost, but also for what my child has lost Is this a case of thinking the grass is greener on the other side? Why was it so easy for him to leave the mother of his child and young son? Will he ever realize what he gave up? Any advice or help will be greatly appreciated!
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