Girlfriend wants me to get rid of my toys, will this show her how much i love her?

[ChatroomHero]

in relationships good men focus their attention on what the special lady in their life wants and needs and puts their desires on the back burner a bit, because he already has what he needs- her.

 

Unless she can turn into a beer, a football, or a jetski, just having her isn't enough to satisfy a man.

 

Men in relationships, good relationships, should be able to be themselves and pursue things they enjoy outside of the woman.

 

You say maybe you are traditional but it's funny how self-proclaimed "traditional" women forget that tradition dictates they have stay home and have babies, dote on their man, do all the cooking and cleaning and please their man at night. They only seem to mention the part that the man puts her ahead of himself and fulfills all her needs without a thought to his own happiness.

[Driftking102]

Everyone is like.. condemning him for doing something to prove his love for his girl. Wtf? I personally believe there should be more men like him.

 

Seriously dear, forget the haters, good for you for actually being a man and doing something for the woman you adore! Seriously, good job!

 

To everyone else, please stop judging their relationship. She is a woman who knows how to ask for what she wants, and he is a man who will clearly do a lot to give her what she wants. That's how it should be, in my humble opinion. To me, this seems like a match made in Heaven. It will show her a lot that you love her. Rock on and I wish you two the best.

 

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but yes I am a believer that in relationships good men focus their attention on what the special lady in their life wants and needs and puts their desires on the back burner a bit, because he already has what he needs- her.

 

This young gent knows what's up.

 

There's nothing wrong with finding a woman who makes you want to change and be a better man. I'm sure she will be inspired by you to be a better woman. I send you two my loving blessings.

 

Thanks for the reply. I am getting rid of the rest of the crap today. I sold one of my video games for $600 because it was just sitting on the shelf. Now I am just getting rid of the rest. I talked to her today and she is very proud of me and pleased that I am getting rid of all my toys instead of keeping them. So at least I am not doing this for nothing plus I get some sweet cash to spend on us together. I mean she has gotten rid of all her teddy bears and only keeps 2-3 so thats why we made a compromise with the video games. I am like since you get to keep 2-3 teddy bears I get to keep my video games which are small and dont take up much space. Also I can't collect anymore stuff, but no big deal to me. I would rather spend the money on her and I doing things then on things itself. I think I am ready to start acting mature and my age for once and stop having little kid toys.

 

I know many people say to store the items, but if she finds them then she would just get super pissed that I lied to her and that would create more problems. I don't want to be a liar and think its truly time to move on. I got rid of all my power ranger stuff, dragonball Z stuff, jurassic park stuff, now in the process of getting rid of my Star wars stuff and then i'll be done. For some strange ass reason my mom wants to keep my charlie brown stuff so I am sending those up to my grandma's house because I don't want them and they would have gone to donation anyways. I know my grandma will enjoy them.

[meeji]

Want to be my friend? I love those things, too. Anyone who doesn't like the fact that I'm into them can piss off.

yea really! go find a girl that is into the same things as you are! I also think that nerd things are pretty cool.

 

Maybe you guys aren't a good match...

[meeji]

One more thing..

 

what if you guys made it and ended up getting married and having children. How cool would it be for you son to have these toys that you have been collecting for years?...

[MrNate 2.0]

One more thing..

 

what if you guys made it and ended up getting married and having children. How cool would it be for you son to have these toys that you have been collecting for years?...

 

I hope more they can stay together until that point. Because if they break it off, then he won't have any of the things he treasured left.

[FitChick]

If you don't want them, sell them. Then buy yourself a Big Boy toy with the money.

[TheGuard13]

(Shakes head)

 

Enjoy "growing up", I guess.

[mortensorchid]

It sounds like she's more concerned with the impression you might make on others. Not good.

 

And why do you have to "prove" you love her, by getting rid of your toys. Why can't she "prove" she loves you by buying you some because it makes you so happy?!!! I know I would for my bf.

 

This is an excellent point along with others, seeming to be on the general opinion about this. I should know. I was going out with this guy years ago who said this wasn't going to be permanent set up if I didn't loose weight and quit smoking. So I said "Well I'll show you, guy!" and after I had lost about 30 of the 45 lbs I would eventually loose, and after I had quit for about 6 weeks, he was furious with me. I asked why he was so angry. He said it took me too long to do it.

 

Think about that the next time she makes a demand. If you give in, will she be really happy? If you defy her, will she be just as angry with you now? There will be no pleasing this person, as I found out the hard way. This situation (and mine) is not love, it's conditional circumstance.

[Woggle]

This week it is your toys, next week it will be your friends and the week after it will be your family. It will never end.

[2sure]

I'm with Woggle on this. When I read the title of the thread , I thought "toys" meant...sports car, a boat, snow mobiles, maybe a small plane. I'm in my 40s so those are common " toys" for some guys my age.

 

In reading , I see I was far off because you meant action figures or stuff I find easy to dismiss . But that's me .

 

Thing is, no matter what your toys are you enjoy them , so whoever loves you has to accept them if not embrace them.

I have friends who complain and bitch about their men's toys. I'm pretty high maintenance but my god...leave the guy alone. He is enjoying himself. Is he starting fires? Making a public spectacle?

You should have personal hobbies.