guydownsouth Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I got dumped about 7 months ago, and I deleted her off Facebook at the time to help me move on. I have a new girlfriend now. Is it okay if I add my ex on Facebook, or would that be weird? Me and the ex go to school together so I see her almost everyday, and she is usually awkward around me. If I add her on Facebook, she'll see I have a new girlfriend, realize I'm not trying to get back together with her anymore, and stop being so awkward. Or would Facebook friending her send a different signal?
lovelifexx Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 If you want to add her because you truly want to be friends with her and not to show her that you moved on or to rub it in her face that you have a new gf then I don't see why not. But I would def send a message asking how she is and telling her you would like to be friends at the same time that you send the request.
Author guydownsouth Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Is the message necessary? I forgot to mention that though she acts awkward around me at school, we do still talk to each other when we do run into each other. It's not like we ignore each other but she is still awkward
BarbecueMan666 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I think just sending a fb request, without a message, and let's say she accepts and sees you're in a relationship, or pictures with a new girl and such might be for her "Omg what a jerk, I hate him so much" - And depending on where she is within regards to healing (you say she acts awkward) Could set her back quite a bit. If you genuinely want to be friends with this girl, and want to start a clean slate - I think a message within regards to trying to make her feel a little easier and such could work wonders. Either saying you forgive her, no hard feelings - she was a great chapter in your life and you want her in your life, I dunno exactly, I'm just writing that off the top of my head. But hopefully you get the drift.
Author guydownsouth Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Well I think she's 100% over me. I think she's just awkward around me because she thinks I still want her back...
flitzanu Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I got dumped about 7 months ago, and I deleted her off Facebook at the time to help me move on. I have a new girlfriend now. Is it okay if I add my ex on Facebook, or would that be weird? Me and the ex go to school together so I see her almost everyday, and she is usually awkward around me. If I add her on Facebook, she'll see I have a new girlfriend, realize I'm not trying to get back together with her anymore, and stop being so awkward. Or would Facebook friending her send a different signal? no. if you see her in person every day at school, you can be friends in person. nothing that you're saying is convincing me that you're not trying to add her just to prove a point, and that's not how you should handle it.
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