Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Well, she texted me out of the blue. I panicked slightly and replied, we sent a few texts, I came across needy, and now all is silent. Don't break NC because it will make you feel worse. I've learnt my lesson the hard way. I'm back to square one.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 I'm so angry with myself! I've gone and messed it all up again!!!
McDonald Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 You didn't mess anything up. It was already messed up. Just learn from the mistake. You were not ready to talk to her. What did she say in the text?
BarbecueMan666 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I wouldn't worry too much, sometimes you need to get kicked in the teeth to get back up from it.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 She was just saying she hopes im ok. I asked her if she misses me, and she said yeah blah blah and then she was like - I worry about you, I hope you're ok. I even asked her for a drink, she never replied. The I texted again and said I understand if she doesn't feel up to it & hope she's ok. I'm such a d-ck.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 I honestly can't believe I done all that. I'm such an idiot. I feel worse now just because I've come across as a complete d-ck.
McDonald Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Were you the one who ended the relaionship? If not.. Then she's being the dick. At least she worry a about you lol. That's more than I will get from my ex.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 She broke up with me. It's all a complete headf-ck. The last text I sent I said I understand if she doesn't want to meet up, I just wanted to see how she was & that I hope she's ok. She still has my stuff aswell which she was supposed to give to a mutual friend, which she hasn't. I can't move on because of all this. I was feeling okish, then she contacted and I started flapping. I know I shouldn't of replied, but I would get back with her, which is why I need all my stuff etc so I've got no ties. I don't want to contact again tho.
CorridorE Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 You didn't do anything wrong. She was in the wrong for contacting you just to play with your feelings. If she really was missing you and was ready to get back into contact with you, she wouldn't be ignoring you now. What you responded with were perhaps unthought-through responses, but were natural ones for when an ex texts you first. Don't feel bad about yourself over it.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 What should I do about my stuff? I don't want to contact again. Shall I just wait?
CorridorE Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 How long since the breakup? I don't think she's going to give back your things on her own. You might just have to be assertive sooner or later and get it yourself. If you think this might be true, would it be better to see her and go through that pain now, or possible in weeks or months?
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 17 days. I asked for them at the beginning of last week, she said she'd give them to a mutual friend because its too hard to see me. I don't know if I should just wait. It's not stuff I can let go because there's expensive items. But, I don't want to contact again yet because I'll look mental.
McDonald Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I say either leave it for her own problems or if you really want the stuff, as a mutual friend to get it from her. If u want to show her you are over it.. Then by having a friend get the stuff will show her. I know your in a tough place right now. The feeling of not wantin to move on. Yet, you are. It sucks. I was and am there right now. Heck my ex has my blender. It a nice blender too!! I used it to make all the mixed drinks she likes.
Author Steve11 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Get the blender back! I've told her I've got her stuff aswell in the last text but obviously she doesn't care. I just want to move on now. I can't keep doing this to myself because I'm going round in circles.
McDonald Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Lol im 4 months into NC. im not going to break it by asking for my blender.
Author Steve11 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Fair enough, you can always replace it. First day of NC again, 18 days since breakup. I don't get the pangs of anxiety like I did, but I still think about her a hell of a lot.
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