Mjack1234 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I'm in a long distance relationship right now and recently my boyfriend has been going through a tough time. Without going into detail, it is a big upset in his life and in turn he has shut down a bit. It happened 7 days ago on Tuesday, I spoke to him a bit on Wednesday and then again Thursday and he told me he doesn't feel like talking or bothering with anyone, and that he'll be alright be just needs some time. I let him know that I'm here for him if he needs anyone to talk to, but I haven't spoken to him since then. It's only been a few day but I am worried about him as this is uncharacteristic. I am trying to respect his process of getting through things and letting him get a hold of me but naturally, I miss talking to him. So here's my question: Would it be ok for me to text him in a couple days to just let him know I've been thinking about him? No pressure to have a conversation or anything.. Or do you think I should wait for him to text me whenever he feels?
Djz05 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Without going into details about what happened to him, I can only suggest a few things that I know has helped me and people I know. If he is a well rounded person before this event and he tells you that he doesnt want to be bothered/or bother anyone give him that space, Which you did. Now that its been a few days, a light email or text message to just say hi and letting him know you are thinking of him is reasonable to show him your support.
Robman9911 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Without going into details about what happened to him, I can only suggest a few things that I know has helped me and people I know. If he is a well rounded person before this event and he tells you that he doesnt want to be bothered/or bother anyone give him that space, Which you did. Now that its been a few days, a light email or text message to just say hi and letting him know you are thinking of him is reasonable to show him your support. I do agree, but I would make sure your message is closed ended so he feels no pressure to respond if he isnt ready to yet.
Djz05 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Yes definitely close ended. Forgot about that. Thanks like "Hi i hope you are feeling better. If theres anythig i can do to help just let me know. Take care now" Or something to that effect. 1
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