b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 OK I am really upset so please help me. I called my ex yesterday to see how she was doing we haven't talked in about 3 weeks so I was just trying to catch up. She comes out and tells me she has a boyfriend and she didn't wanna talk to me. I told her to give me a couple of minutes to just say some things and I wouldn't talk to her again the whole phone call she was very rude. I told her thanks for the wonderful 2 years she gave me and I would cherish my memories with her. I told her thanks for giving me her body, mind and love. I also said thanks because she taught me alot about having respect in a relationship and to not take things for granted. I told her that I wish her happiness and I hope everything in her life is good and continues to be good. She then said i hope the same to you in a rude tone I said goodbye and she said talk to you later. The whole time she was saying hurry because I wanna go spend time with Josh...her new boyfriend. God from what everyone tells me this guys is bad new he does drugs, drinks and everyone says he is not even attractive. I asked her mom if he was a good guy and she said well I met him once. I asked well does he look like a good guy? She says well he didn't look like a bum, but she said my ex was really being secretive about this guy, and not bringing him around. Which right there tells me he is not very good looking and must not be a very good guy. It is really weird because when we met she couldn't wait to introduce me to her mom, and she always invited me to her house to hang out. I don't mean to brag but I am an attractive guy with a good job. I just don't understand. The whole reason we broke up is because she didn't want a serious relationship with anyone. Ha ya right!!! Well after pulling myself back together after my ex beat me up with her harshness. I went out with some friends then went home to bed. Guess who calls me???? You guessed it my ex. I didn't wanna talk to her so I didn't answer. She left me a message saying how sorry she was for being rude and she was just frustrated. She told me to call her today and she gave me her whole schedule so I could try and catch her on a break or after work. She says she really wants to talk to me and she has alot of explaining to do. Should I even call her????? If I do how should I act???? I guess I would like things to end on better terms but I already said everything I needed to. What should I do please help!!!!
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 You're upset because she was rude to you over the phone, then you return the favour when she tries to apologize? That's childish, man...
Author b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 I haven't even talked to her yet. So how did I return the favor? I think your on drugs or don't know how to read. Will somebody that can help me please respond.
Vie Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I think it is understandable that you're being upset.. afterall, you didn't mean no harm when you gave her the call. I'd say give it more time.. don't call her right away.. I'm sure this will give her the idea that you were upset and disappointed. If she really was sorry and meant what she said, she would do more efforts. One more thing though, do you still have feelings for her?
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Originally posted by b18bme I haven't even talked to her yet. So how did I return the favor? I think your on drugs or don't know how to read. Will somebody that can help me please respond. You have an attitude problem, punk. Not picking up the telephone, ignoring the gesture she tried to make, is selfish and rude, and hence, TADAAAAAAA, it's returning the favour. I don't have a reading problem, you have a comprehension problem. If you still have difficulty in understanding, I can try to put it more simply. Or increase the font size, like they do in children's books?
Author b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 Yes I do still have feelings for her very much. I started breaking down when we talked and I started to cry. I felt so stupid but couldn't control it. She probably thinks I am some kind of wussy man now. I told her sorry for bothering her and sorry that she had to hear me cry. How long do you think I should wait to call her. I really don't wanna play games.
Author b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 Papillion Dude get out of my post your a dick. If you had any understanding then you would know. I was very badly hurt with her attitude, hence when she called I didn't feel like talking to her. Get the hell out of her assbag. I came her for help so help or shut the F*ck up.
Vie Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 That is understandable.. if you don't mind me asking, why did you two break up? I think you should give it like 2 or 3 days before you call her back and see how it goes... It's not about playing games.. It's more to saving your own heart, so that you won't get hurt again.. the last thing we want is for her to find you because she's having problems with her new bf and goes to you as rebound.
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Get out of her assbag? Hey, I didn't come near your [color=red][font=arial]EX[/font][/color] girlfriend's assbag.
EC Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Dude get out of my post your a dick. If you had any understanding then you would know. I was very badly hurt with her attitude, hence when she called I didn't feel like talking to her. Get the hell out of her assbag. I came her for help so help or shut the F*ck up. Whoa! Can we bring it down a notch? That was so not necessary! I think she was rude and she treated you bad and didn't care what you were saying from your heart and now she feels bad. Well too bad. She expects you to drop everything and call her on her schedule? Nah my friend, if she wants to really talk to you she will call you again. Do not pick up and call her. If she does call then pick up and listen to what she has to say but don't call her. You shouldn't be the one that has to call again after you were treated so rudely. GL!
Vie Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 EternallyConfused, you surely make a lot of sense! As for papillon and b18bme.. please stop it
Author b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 I am sorry I just came her for help. I don't need people telling me I am childish and I have an attitude problem. I am a wreck right now, I am at work with only 2 hours of sleep under my belt, and I have nobody to talk to but you guys. So I got upset sorry for that.
Vie Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Thanks. I'm sure this is not easy for you. However, You need to watch out for yourself too.. there is no use feeling miserable and all that because you won't be able to think straight. I'm sure everything is gonna be okay, although I somewhat agree with what EternallyConfused said that she should be the one that give you another call to prove that she is truly sorry for being rude to you.. But right now, you gotta take care of yourself. Try to get some sleep tonight!
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Originally posted by b18bme I am sorry I just came her for help. I don't need people telling me I am childish and I have an attitude problem. I am a wreck right now, I am at work with only 2 hours of sleep under my belt, and I have nobody to talk to but you guys. So I got upset sorry for that. It's quite simple. If you are prepared to ask for help then you should be prepared to listen to answers you might not like, and not hurl insults back because you don't like the response. What you did was childish, end of story. If you take that as an insult, well then it's quite accurate, isn't it?
Author b18bme Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 So you guys think that I should not call her then? Will that make her think I am a jerk if she is trying to apologize and I won't call her back. She already said sorry on the voicemail, but then she said she had alot of explaining to do. I have not idea what else she needs to explain. Should I tell her I except her apology? I really don't want to end things on bad terms like this. Cuz what if she never does call back then I will feel bad because she tried and I ignored the attempt. God why does it have to be like this???
EC Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I really don't want to end things on bad terms like this. Cuz what if she never does call back then I will feel bad because she tried and I ignored the attempt. Was she thinking this when you were pouring out your heart to her over the phone trying to end things nicely? No you said she kept saying to "HURRY UP I NEED TO GO SPEND TIME WITH JOSH" Why do you need to call her back. Have a little respect for yourself. She was rude to you and now she calls you and you jump. Relax and like I said before if she is trully sorry and actually cares about you and your feelings she will make an attempt to call you back and fix things. If she doesn't call you back then you know what you tried, you said what you needed to say, she heard you, she left you a message saying she's sorry so what more do you need? You got what you wanted. She needs to explain she said? What does she need to explain? The fact that she dissed you and rub in your face how she has someone new? Whjy do you want to speak to her knowing it's going to hurt you more? I say don't call her wait for her to call. If she doesn't then you should just leave this girl alone. She is the EX for a reason.
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