Struggling with end of relationship/losing him as a friend

[Lumpyspaceprincessxx]

Hey everyone,

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. This guy and I were friends for around a year, dated for a year. He broke it off because he said he couldn't see a future with me and he needed to sort his life out. A bit after that we agreed to be friends, hung out a few times and ended up hookup up, after which he decided he needed to sort his life out for good and I called him on being a douche throughout te breakup so we didn't talk fr a bit. A week after this he sent me a message, just super awkward small talk telling me he bought a blender and has been making awesome smoothies. He's texted me a couple times after tht just with equally insignificant small talk. At the moment I'm just unsure of why he's talking to me again, pretty sure it's just a friend thing but he did admit a few weeks ago he'd struggled a lot with the breakup... And it's kind of screwing with me that we're "talking" but I no longer feel that I can go to him with anything significant. I'm starting a new degree, a lot of changes in my life at te moment and they're mostly positive but sometimes I just feel like Calling him and chatting to him about everything, but at the moment it feels like a fragile kind of half-friendship an I don't want to **** with it... Not sure what I'm trying to get out of posting this but I just want to get it off my chest.

[Lumpyspaceprincessxx]

I should add that our relationship was amazing, we totally clicked and everything was perfect for the most part. Just so natural and loving and amazing and I'm so grateful to have had that experience.

[Thunderchild]

Yep - he's a "cake-eater". Wants to have his cake and eat it. Breaks up and then does hook ups with you, then messes with you head?? C'mon girlfriend you are way beter than that!

 

You're starting a new degree - new college? - new city? That says to me fresh start. Run, girlfriend, go to college have a yourself a whale of a time and forget this user/loser.

[Amelie1980]

Yep - he's a "cake-eater". Wants to have his cake and eat it. Breaks up and then does hook ups with you, then messes with you head?? C'mon girlfriend you are way beter than that!

 

You're starting a new degree - new college? - new city? That says to me fresh start. Run, girlfriend, go to college have a yourself a whale of a time and forget this user/loser.

 

I never understood that expression have cake and.eat it.

 

Why would anyone want to have a cake and not eat it?!

[Own Worst Enemy]

I never understood that expression have cake and.eat it.

 

Why would anyone want to have a cake and not eat it?!

 

because they also want to know they have the cake there waiting for them in case they decide they feel like crisps or chocolate for a bit.

 

and because sometimes they like to smash that cake into tiny little pieces and make trifle out of it.

 

i could go on, but i won't!!