seren Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 My H told me had been having an A, which, if there is a best way of disclosing an A, was the best way for me to find out. It had a lot to do with my decision to reconcile. Had I found out any other way I would have felt differently about things, still stayed, but not had the same respect for him.
Author NotCamelot Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 FRIEND! That first statement BOLDED right there says IT WAS FOR REVENGE, perhaps also out of spite! It's clearly right under your nose! That should tell you it was intentional! Then the bolded underlined part says to me, she's happy she got her revenge! Are you understanding the way I'm seeing this? I'm seeing BS! Sometimes someone needs a fresh set of eyes on the outside looking in, it's hard to see it on the inside looking out! Way out to a NEW life? So, she was looking for a way out? Exit affair? You have to remember, those are my thoughts......not things she said. She has never told me anything like that. What she DID tell me was that she thought I did not love her. That is the only reason ever given. The rest is what my perception came to be in the months following d-day. But, regardless of anything, it is over, and the R is going extremely well.
road Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 You have to remember, those are my thoughts......not things she said. She has never told me anything like that. What she DID tell me was that she thought I did not love her. That is the only reason ever given. The rest is what my perception came to be in the months following d-day. But, regardless of anything, it is over, and the R is going extremely well. That is standard WW fog babble. She re wrote her marital history in her mind to jusify her affair. You bought it as would any BH that wants to keep his marriage together. Your WW wanted a RA and had it. RA's never make things better only more difficult. 1
Darth Vader Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 You have to remember, those are my thoughts......not things she said. She has never told me anything like that. What she DID tell me was that she thought I did not love her. That is the only reason ever given. The rest is what my perception came to be in the months following d-day. But, regardless of anything, it is over, and the R is going extremely well. AH! Have you ever asked her to confirm or disprove your thoughts? I think she's not telling you something, I wonder why. I have to wonder if there was other reasons as to why. Oh, and if you do ask her, don't let her off if/when she says she can't remember! We only want the best for you, without any more TT!
Darth Vader Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 That is standard WW fog babble. She re wrote her marital history in her mind to jusify her affair. You bought it as would any BH that wants to keep his marriage together. Your WW wanted a RA and had it. RA's never make things better only more difficult. This deserves a bump, as I seem to think it's the case! Something's hokey about all this, I don't know why, but, I can feel it!
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