blisshope Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 How can one win the heart of one's husband. I am desparately trying to regain my husband's love. He has a girlfriend and he says he is in love with her. We have been married 10 years and have four small children. I think there would be a chance if she was not in the picture. However whenever I see us making any progress he regresses and I think its because of her. Peolple tell me if I pull away that may do it. However I am obsseseed with being near him and doing nice things for him. I am a doormat. I wish I could regain self respect and move on with my life. Intelectuallly I think I would be better off with out him. He has not cared about me through this whole ordeal. He has lied to me numerous times and now is taking my children away on weekend trips without me. How does one get the strength to move on? How does one realize that being alone is better than being with someone who is capable of hurting you. i have never felt so low in my life. I have never cried so much. I constanly switch back and forth in my mind. One minute I am desparately trying to find ways to rekindle his feelings and other times (Not as many) I think about how life would be like alone with my children. Can anyone telll me a method to win back somebody who says they have loss all love . I guess I owe it to our family to do whatever is possible to keep us together. I still love him and I am living in denial. i guess I can't accept that he is no longer there for me. Even though his actions speak louder than any words he might use. Is there any hope. He is still living in the house but not in the same bedroom. We are going to start counseloring again. i wish there was some wand I could wave to make this all better. Is there any hope. the affair was revealed 8 months ago. she is a co-worker and lives 5 minutes away. she is also married but heading for a divorce.
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 If it's true that she is heading for a divorce, then it's probably only a matter of time that he wants one too. Unless of course, he just likes having the OW. WELL f*** THAT FOR A DOLLAR! How can you allow him to do this to you? There are many other great men out there who would love to recieve you love. Take your children, and leave the bastard to his own devices. My own mother did this while we were still young, and it was the best thing she could have done for herself, and for us. If you think about moving on, then do it NOW. While your children are young and can absorb the trauma.
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