Dangthisisheavy Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Help with a girl* I've been good friends with her for just over a year now and basically the first time we hung out together by ourselves I realised that I really liked her. BUT she's had a boyfriend the whole time (started a few months before we really started talking). However around 6 months ago we were talking and it came out that she had a crush on me as well, she realised at the same time as I did. She DID end up choosing him but I honestly think she still likes me nearly 3 months after this and maybe because he was the safer decision and her first serious relationship. We decided we still want to be friends. We stopped talking as much over Christmas (still every so often) but about a month ago we finally started talking like we used to again. Anyway a few days later she randomly said she doesn't want to talk to me anymore, and I sent her a few texts asking why, I don't understand blah blah, no more than a few because I didn't want to annoy her or make things any worse. I only got a response from her friend. It turns out she had been fighting with her bf and it always ended up being about me ( I don't know why after all she chose him) and that she decided she needs some space from me. It's been 3 weeks since she said this and we haven't talked. I think I'm in love and I just want her to be happy (with me or not, but I don't see them working out) but I'm starting to miss her a lot. She's been to big a part of my life recently to just let her go. How much longer should I wait to contact her (3 weeks already)? And how should I contact her? (Text easiest, call, or meeting in person but that could be difficult). Also does them fighting indicate that she may still have feelings for me? (To me having a crush on someone for nearly a year is to big to ignore) I'm just really confused and don't know what to do! Thank you in advance
ChessPieceFace Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Sounds like he looked through her phone and saw flirty texts between you and her. Any attempt you make to "get with her" while she has a BF is disrespectful to both of them, and morally wrong. And even if you don't have any morals or ethics, and only care about satisfying your penis, you're still making a choice to be "that guy", someone who messes with people's relationships. As a result many people in her life that care about her might advise her to stay away from you for that reason. You also might have to deal with an enraged boyfriend. Personally I'd focus your attention on other women for a lot of reasons. This girl already likes you. You can be around but be respectful and let her make the choice.
Dragonfruit Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Also, please just post you message in one place from now on. Thanks.
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