Ordinaryday Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 It is no secret amongst my friends that I am looking for a girlfriend and a lot of the advice they have offered me has been useful, but some.... not so much. I am aware they are trying to be helpful, but some of the advice actually comes across as trite, clueless and even insulting. Advice such as... "All good relationships are built on a strong friendship so if you meet a girl you like, be sure to develop a friendship with her first"... Right. Tried this a few times and all that happened was I got friendzoned. Now I am not prepared to risk hours of time and effort into developing a "friendship" with a girl at the risk of being friendzoned. Now I make my intentions known straight away and if she wants to take it from there, awesome. If not, at least I have wasted no time. "You are never going to date a supermodel, just come to accept that. But there are heaps of 'ordinary' girls who would be interested in you" the advice sounds nice, but it is completely oblivious to the fact that NONE of the girls I got rejected by were 'supermodels' by ANY definition, they were all 'average' girls. "Don't try too hard to meet a girl. stop trying and you will meet her when you least expect it" sounds nice, but it is simply not true for a lot of people. Just standing idly by and expecting some amazing girl to just bump into you and fall in love with you, well that only happens in romantic comedies. "Take up a class to meet someone. You will have a lot of fun and may meet someone as well" tried this a few times, did several classes and courses, and the only girls I met were either not interested or already taken. I am already a busy person and I know you have to put yourself out there to meet someone, but taking up a six month salsa class (for some reason whenever ANYONE suggests taking up a class to meet a girl, it is ALWAYS a dancing class) on the off chance you meet an available girl who likes you, well that is incredibly risky. Advice such as the above sounds 'nice' but ultimately it is unhelpful, at least to me. Any advice you have gotten from people that sounded nice but was useless? 3
TaraMaiden Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 "Always take tissues because much as it may be tempting, picking your nose is really rude, and ugly on a lady." That was honest dating advice from my brother, who had the misfortune of dating a young lady, who did exactly that on a first date. Seriously.
irc333 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 "Always take tissues because much as it may be tempting, picking your nose is really rude, and ugly on a lady." That was honest dating advice from my brother, who had the misfortune of dating a young lady, who did exactly that on a first date. Seriously. Or farting real loudly in the car.
TaraMaiden Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Men do it. A lot. behind the steering wheel. They think they're alone, but - - They forget - they have see-through windows.,..... 1
irc333 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Those are some of the common gems that the clueless try to hock as precious stones. I've never needed to test them to know they were nonsense. Another factoid is dance classes are known to regularly have many more men than women and women are shared though they are often taken. Funny how women claim to like to dance and cry about never finding a man but rarely take those classes. Funny how men are dating men who can't stand dancing, and just sit on the side lines as the girlfriend dances by herself at a dance club, while other men try to dance with her/ hit on her. There's this one woman, who likes to get crazy dancing, we were at a private party...there were people dancing on the dance floor...but who boyfriend wouldn't join her. She would go on and off the floor, and when she'd join back up with him, he'd hand her her drink...and she'd be booty dancing her arse up against his aroused private part....and he'd still be a cold fish. So he'd be getting some odd lap dance while she's rubbin' up on him, and him standing there in a drunken haze. And I think "What does she SEE in that guy, what dead ass"
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Dating and relationships are 80 percent luck. Of course nobody will admit this because we are a society that likes to blame people for their "losses". So they keep dispensing the same old sage "advice". However, There seems to be times in life that you can't really do much. Times when it's all a dead end. Really, finding a partner is like doing a balancing act, you have to force the issue without forcing the issue. None of that probably made any sense but it's early and I'm groggy. I hate this time change. 1
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I wish people were so private around me. I have seen too many grown adults wipe it on the cuff of their sleeve. Some even handling food or working as cashiers. Many times women in those cases. I hate when people lick their fingers before touching papers and bags at the store or other places. Why do people do this? They lick their finger, pick up a paper, and then hand it to you. Gee thanks! If your skin is that dry that you can't pick things up use some lotion! And there's a nice rant for your mornin'!
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I have seen some wear a small rubber thimble on their index to get a better grip. Me too but not very often. I think I've only ever seen this at the post office but since they are always going broke I guess that means no more rubber thimbles. I wonder if Trojan makes these?
Revolver Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Be yourself is the worst advice ever. If a man or woman sucks with dating, why would I tell them to "be themselves"? How exactly has that worked out so far? IMO be yourself was something that was first told to young attractive women who happened to be shy and people thought it worked for everyone 2
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Be yourself is the worst advice ever. If a man or woman sucks with dating, why would I tell them to "be themselves"? How exactly has that worked out so far? IMO be yourself was something that was first told to young attractive women who happened to be shy and people thought it worked for everyone I've always thought this same thing. I like the analogy about the shy, young women. It has always be young women spouting the "be yourself" advice. 1
Revolver Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I've always thought this same thing. I like the analogy about the shy, young women. It has always be young women spouting the "be yourself" advice. Because they're the ones it was intended for(and have the most success with). So they think that it works for everyone
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