Gingerxr2 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Well went out Friday with a group of friends , noticed this beautiful girl across the bar smiling and looking at me most of the night , being the shy under confident guy that I am I waited until I had enough to drink that have me the Dutch coverage to go speak her ! Went ok got her number etc etc , so played it cool and gave her my number by text, So she texted the next day and I texted back it took 3 hours for her to text back and it goes back and forth like that I know she might generally be busy but in my brain it's like she's not interested and she's not interested when I know chances are she's just busy ! The brain can be cruel sometimes ! I know she's not like my ex but I just wondered if anyone could give me some advice on how to play this as I really don't want to mess this up .
Holly Graham Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Stop worrying about how long it takes for her to get back to you. People are busy and have lives. I know you want her to respond to you right away but she might be at work or in a situation that has nothing to do with how she feels about you. Just relax, take a breath, and go with it. You don't know what's going on with her so just let things happen. Let her contact you and don't respond 2 seconds later. Be patient, even though it's a bitch. You can do it!
Mumbles Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I'm pretty new to the whole texting thing. Forever I just used my phone as a phone hehe. But girls I see at the moment are a little younger then me and seem to text more than they talk. Took me a while to get my head around it, as I thought it was a sort of substitute for talking rather than additional to it. Like you, initially I thought that texting should be more chatty, like conversation. I talk, you talk, backwards and forwards sort of thing, but now I'm starting to think that its more a contact thing. So, you're girl is thinking about you and will text you essentially that ... I'll do the same. Sometimes no response for hours as people are working or otherwise busy, but its pretty fabulous I think. There does seem to be a time limit though. If my girl texts me something, anything really, I'm better off responding within 2-3 hours or she'll text more to see whats up ... Its sort of like a remote stroke of the hand or a quick kiss in some ways ... a friendly/loving/sexy thought about your lady enters your head, so you text her ... if you were together you might hold her hand, or touch her shoulder, its a contact and closeness thing I reckon. So, your lady is texting you .. this is a great sign I think. She's obviously thinking about you, can't be a bad thing. Don't worry too much about the period between texts would be my advice. If you're still flirting a bit, and haven't gotten to relationship status yet (whatever that might be between the two of you) then I'd not leap straight onto her texts within seconds and reply .. might make you appear a bit needy and desperate, finish whatever you are doing, then text her after.
Darren Steez Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Dude she just met you and you're up on how long it's taking for her to text you back? This is only day 1 and you're already over analyzing..not a good sign
Author Gingerxr2 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Dude she just met you and you're up on how long it's taking for her to text you back? This is only day 1 and you're already over analyzing..not a good sign Yeah that's right , its not a good sign but that's why I'm asking about it and not jumping down her throat about it , surely this is what this site is about asking for advice ? I've been through a lot of **** over the last few months and for me to even go talk to another girl took a lot I'm happy with what I've done and thanks for the advice given ! It's just difficult to get back on the horse that's all
BarbecueMan666 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Wouldn't worry too much mate. You're going to meet a lot of women, and have a lot of different interactions. Over analyzing is one of those things that is hard to not do, but it's better to "let things happen" as they're going to go that way whether you want them to or not. I've met several girls recently over the last few months, My ex and I broke up new years day - mainly her choice, I still love her, but I've also had my swings within regards to replying and such to texts. Sometimes the conversation is really cool, be it emotionally just getting a long very well, be it flirting back and forth - sometimes I'm just not that into it and don't reply for a while, sometimes I reply constantly and it turns into a good convo. Just remember, everybody is dealing with their own stuff, and that's something we forget when we're in a relationship. I made my life revolve around the mrs and it's hard trying to learn to find my feet again. Don't worry, just enjoy yourself. 1
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