and heartbroken

[Confused1994]

Hi,

I'm 18 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years now, although the last 3 months have been more off rather than on. I just got back together with him yesterday and I can't help but feel like that I am doing a HUGE mistake by taking him back. At the beginning of this relationship everything went great, we got to know each other and our feelings for one another grew and we fell in love. For 8 months I couldn't help but feel that some of my secrets were to private and that I couldn't tell him right away but will when I feel ready, he found out himself and immediately called me a liar and stopped trusting me. My secret was that I got token advantage of when I was younger by my cousin. I just didn't feel ready to tell him especially a secret like that, the day he found out he ran away from me acting like I was disgusting etc. made it seem like it was my fault that it had happened to me, also after me and my boyfriend first got intermide he told me I wasn't allowed to wear certain types of clothing and I felt like I was dressing like a boy, he also told me I was not to talk to any other boys as they could fancy me. Tbh it got creepy, I wasn't allowed to do anything and since I'm 18 I would like to go out drinking with my friends since its legal for me (uk). He told me I wasn't allowed to do that until he is 18 (he is still 17). He keeps controlling me and I feel very unhappy, he made me fall out with my friends for 2 years who I just now started talking to again. He is a very very jealous person. I respected everything that he wanted from me because I love him so much but it's gotten to a point that I can't take it anymore. I tried talking it out with him but he doesn't care. I broke up with him and told him we will never get together, he wrote me asked me back out, tried to propose to me etc. I met up with him and we talked, (we broke up for 1 week) I felt like I should give him another chance, am I doing a mistake? Should I just have walked away? He says he'll change but will he? Please help me, I have nobody else to talk to, thank you.

[uv4dreams]

don't waste your time taking back a guy who tries to control you and how you are as a person. he actually sounds very similar to my ex-boyfriend, who I dated for 4 years, but finally had the courage to leave because of the fact that he became violent and obsessed.

you probably hear it often, and I regret not listening to others when I started dating my ex, but you're so young and there are too many kind, sweet, and loving men out there who can and will embrace you as the person you are. don't settle. I hope you find it in yourself to trust your heart and not the guy who is trying to control your heart.