tangosucka Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 girlfriend of 6 months says she needs space. she said she's confused, needs to figure things out, can't see things clearly and needs to be single. She gave me the "if you love something let it go, if it's meant to be it'll come back" bit. She then said that she wants to know if she can live without me...? Just started the no contact thing.... i just want to know everyone's honest opinions and experiences on the matter.
Compromize Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Her wanting to take a break and be single means she checked out of the relationship a while back but doesn't want to just say goodbye. She wants to keep you there for emotional support, back-up plan, comfort, ego boost, what have you. Would you want to take a break from someone you were crazy about? Hell no! A break is just a break-up with training wheels. She can and wants to live without you, if she couldn't the thought wouldn't have even entered her mind to take a break. I'm sorry man but the writing is on the walls. Once a relationship gets to the "I want to take a break" stage, it's already broken. Doesn't mean it can't be fixed but do you want her back after she has been "single" and on the market for a while? Sounds like she wants to test the waters and have you to fall back on after she sows her oats for a while. Just let her go. The right woman won't want to take a break from you.
Author tangosucka Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 thanks for your input. is it unlikely that she wants space to just figure things out? Her wanting to take a break and be single means she checked out of the relationship a while back but doesn't want to just say goodbye. She wants to keep you there for emotional support, back-up plan, comfort, ego boost, what have you. Would you want to take a break from someone you were crazy about? Hell no! A break is just a break-up with training wheels. She can and wants to live without you, if she couldn't the thought wouldn't have even entered her mind to take a break. I'm sorry man but the writing is on the walls. Once a relationship gets to the "I want to take a break" stage, it's already broken. Doesn't mean it can't be fixed but do you want her back after she has been "single" and on the market for a while? Sounds like she wants to test the waters and have you to fall back on after she sows her oats for a while. Just let her go. The right woman won't want to take a break from you.
Thunderchild Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 "Taking a break"/"being on a break" is just total BS - she's dangling the carrot in front of you to keep you interested. Effectively, you're going to be second best to every guy she takes a fancy to. If you're ready to have your heart ripped out of your chest and stomped on the floor on a regular basis - good luck to you. Personally, I'd keep my self respect and say "cheerio" to her. 1
Chi townD Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Her saying that she needs space and is "confused"? There's another guy in the picture. Sorry to break it to you.
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