Embee Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I quite unexpectedly met a guy at my neighbor's wife's birthday party two Fridays ago. We talked to each other throughout the evening and at the end of the night he volunteered his number and I also gave him mine. I did not hear from him by Wed. so I went ahead and called him and left a message, inviting him to my ocean swim with my triathlon club on Sunday. He did not return my call untill Friday evening, was apologetic , he said that he couldn't make the swim but would like to get together, Sunday. He stated that he was going to bed early and to call him on Saturday. I called him on Saturday and he never returned my call UNTIL SUNDAY evening. He left me a message, was again, very apologetic, his first words were, "man I'm not good at this." He told me that he didn't get my message until late and he had some crazy events this weekend, was hoping I would be free Monday that he was going for a swim early and a bike ride. I called Monday, saying that I am glad that he wasn't just blowing me off. Which he did. I finally talked to him (Monday) today in person, around 1pm. It turned out that he went to put an offer on a house on Saturday and said that he got caught up with the process and dinner w/ friends and then came home forgot about checking his messages. I told him, "Hey did you actually give me your number, because you didn't think I would call." He apologized and wanted to take me out to dinner, but I already had plans, so he is taking me to lunch tomorrow. WHAT IS UP? CAN GUYS BE THIS INCONSIDERATE WHEN THEY LIKE A GIRL? IT JUST MAKES ME FEEL LIKE CHOPPED LIVER.
bgfrombg Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I don't really think he's meaning to be inconsiderate, although he is. I know when I like a girl, I tend to get pushy,lol. I want them to know that I like them, and in some cases, I end up scaring them off. I mean you never know, I wonder to myself, if I call too much, I seem desperate, if I don't call she'll think I'm not interested. To me, women are so confusing,lol. But he shouldn't tell you he's interested you and not be, that's just wrong. So just give him a couple of more chances, and if he doesn't straighten up, look elsewhere and let him know, you snooze you lose.
teck21 Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I agree with bgfrombg. "man I'm not good at this." Sounds to me like it's true. If he doesn't take the couple more chances which I think you ought to give him, then look elsewhere. Maybe he needs to get more comfortable talking to and being with you cos he wasn't prepared or is shy or something. Maybe he spent the whole day wondering when a good time to call you back would be.
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