sadieee Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 (edited) in about 3 days would've been our one year anniversary. he was my first serious relationship and love. we're both young so there's always been alot of immature fights and actions between us. we've been through alot together! it's been almost 3 weeks since our breakup, which wasn't even a real breakup it was more of we just stopped talking to each other. we had gotten into a silly fight like always we were texting each other then he stopped replying to me which was around 8pm i waited & waited for a response but there was none. so i decided to call him at midnight because i knew he was still awake and he ignored my call. i sent him a text saying "thanks for ignoring my call!" i fell asleep a while later. the next day i waited for him him to text me, which he didn't. i went on his twitter after school and he had blocked me! i then went on my friends twitter so i could see his profile and he had followed alot of his ex girlfriends or girls he used to talk to in the past! knowing that that would piss me off! i didn't bother however to text or call him angry. he's done stupid things like this to me before and i wasn't going to waste my time on it. he also always ignores me when i get mad at him so in the end i always end up being the one crawling back, i wanted to see if HE would put in the effort to try and fix things so i then told myself that if he doesn't try talking to me within 3 days that i was going to leave. i didn't wait for the 3 days though because after looking on his profile a while later he started tweeting to some of those girls! i cried for 4 hours while piling all of the stuff he had ever given me in my car. it like giving me a big **** you! it was so disrespectful and outrageous to me i couldnt believe the way he was acting i thought i meant more to him. i was just so fed up! so a day and half later after he blocked me i drove to his house and dumped everything on a bench outside of his house when i was done i drove away and texted him 'are you home?' he replied 'yes why?' and i texted back 'go look outside.' and he never replied back. anyways, looking back on everything i felt like things could've been handled better. i was just too upset and angry and i acted upon it. if only i had tried to actually talk to him calmly we could've talked things out. but that's not what happened and now FILLED with regret and heartbreak. i've tried to get some advice from others but they all tell me that he'll come running back and that he may be trying to act like he's happy single but in a couple of months he'll be back. i believed it at first but then doubt started clouding my mind. what if he didn't come back after a couple of months?! i've been conflicted between contacting him and making things better between us or letting fate take its course. i really need good advice please help me! Edited March 11, 2013 by sadieee
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 The better question would be: Why do you want him back? He checked out on you, plain-cold. A silly arguement is no reason for a breakup...Well, in mature cases. It sounds like he decided to just check-out. Maybe an old-ex came back. You did say, he was friends or following them on Twitter? You should not set yourself up for the fall again. You should avoid him. He disrespected you: He could have answered; but cut you cold. He shouldn't be talking to old flames. I wouldn't take him back months down the line. I wouldn't side-line my life for him. I wouldn't be a second-choice, when I could be someone's first choice. He may come back, he may not - that is for time to tell. You shouldn't take him back.
Author sadieee Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 The better question would be: Why do you want him back? He checked out on you, plain-cold. A silly arguement is no reason for a breakup...Well, in mature cases. It sounds like he decided to just check-out. Maybe an old-ex came back. You did say, he was friends or following them on Twitter? You should not set yourself up for the fall again. You should avoid him. He disrespected you: He could have answered; but cut you cold. He shouldn't be talking to old flames. I wouldn't take him back months down the line. I wouldn't side-line my life for him. I wouldn't be a second-choice, when I could be someone's first choice. He may come back, he may not - that is for time to tell. You shouldn't take him back. i want him back because i know that he's a good guy! and i honestly can't picture being with anyone else. he never used to act so cold to me until 4 months ago when we were fighting viciously alot and had broken up for 2 weeks. it had torn him up he would call me crying begging me to give him another chance but i was being stubborn. i don't even remember the reason why we broke up honestly that's how stupid it was and i was. realizing how stupid i was i called him 2 weeks later and told him i wanted him back. we got back together but things just weren't the same. he was colder to me and didn't put as much effort. that breakup had changed him, he wasn't the same person anymore. now sitting here thinking about it i realize i should've done something. i made him the way he is, now.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Maybe-so. But he has checked out. If going by what you say: Then he got tired of it, you clearly know this. When my ex was giving me hell, I stopped caring about everything. I was more colder, and still am pretty cold. He took all he could take. Crazy amounts of arguing wear the soul down quickly. He checked out. Proof is in the pudding: Him blocking you is not a good sign of any future investments. However, he may cool-off and return. Who knows? We sometimes are our greatest devils, and we ruin our chances. Only time will tell. If he does care about you, and he might just care: He did call and beg... Another note: If he had come on LS and said, he called and begged you back: He would be told how wrong that is, and that he shouldn't be a doormat, and should avoid you. That is a critical mistake, to call and beg anyone back. I say that, to show you the other-side of the coin. To show you too, that you need to wait and see, and not beg him back either.
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