I just want to say it.

[miss_jaclynrae]

You all can call me crazy, and tell me my relationship will fail due to it being unconventional in certain ways...

 

But you all can suck it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have spent every day together since day one, as well as almost every night. We have merged our lives together so easily neither one of us really made a huge notice of it. We have had our tiffs, but our fighting style is so perfect that it never gets truly out of hand. We talk. A LOT. We do monthly check ins to see how the other feels about where things are going. We inspire, support, and trust one another. I could seriously go on about just how PERFECT we are together but I would be here all day. All I know is that I have the relationship I have always dreamed of with a man who has put me first in his life.

I officially moved in this week [A little ahead of schedule] and it has been a few weeks since I lost my job and car.

 

It has been stressful but he is a constant support, and motivates me on the daily. Not to mention that for the first time in my life, I am in love with someone where we show our love so much there is no need to say it. We are a team and act like one.

 

 

 

My family doesn't approve, people give us funny looks sometimes, but gosh darn, I wouldn't trade our life or relationship for anything. We have fun with it, make the best out of everyday and have become the best of friends.

The biggest thing I have learned through this relationship? The minute you stop caring about what society, your friends, or your family says when it comes to love and how it "should be", the more intense that love becomes. Who cares if they don't understand it, just knowing that you both "get it" and find it worth keeping is enough.

[iKING]

Congrats! I hope the very best for you guys.

 

Why are people not liking it? Isn't it kind of none of their business?

 

Just curious really.

[johan]

Congratulations on your success.

 

Why would people give you funny looks? judging by your pictures, I doubt it has anything to do with you. It's him. Is he 90? Is he human? Does he dress in a costime of some sort?

[ThaWholigan]

You all can call me crazy, and tell me my relationship will fail due to it being unconventional in certain ways...

 

But you all can suck it.

 

Immediately thought of this

 

Either way, I hope it works out well

[miss_jaclynrae]

Congrats! I hope the very best for you guys.

 

Why are people not liking it? Isn't it kind of none of their business?

 

Just curious really.

 

 

 

 

He is older, and we pretty much moved in together after our 1st date.

From my family the age and the fact that he is a recovering alcoholic automatically made them not care for him.

 

 

For others, the age and the fact that we spend SO much time together. It throws people off, they can't imagine doing almost EVERYTHING with one person. It was like skipping a step, which isn't always accepted.

[miss_jaclynrae]

He isn't THAT much older btw. Just 10 years, but he is bald... and grey.

Therefore people tend to think he is a bit older than just 32.

[todreaminblue]

You all can call me crazy, and tell me my relationship will fail due to it being unconventional in certain ways...

 

But you all can suck it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have spent every day together since day one, as well as almost every night. We have merged our lives together so easily neither one of us really made a huge notice of it. We have had our tiffs, but our fighting style is so perfect that it never gets truly out of hand. We talk. A LOT. We do monthly check ins to see how the other feels about where things are going. We inspire, support, and trust one another. I could seriously go on about just how PERFECT we are together but I would be here all day. All I know is that I have the relationship I have always dreamed of with a man who has put me first in his life.

I officially moved in this week [A little ahead of schedule] and it has been a few weeks since I lost my job and car.

 

It has been stressful but he is a constant support, and motivates me on the daily. Not to mention that for the first time in my life, I am in love with someone where we show our love so much there is no need to say it. We are a team and act like one.

 

 

 

My family doesn't approve, people give us funny looks sometimes, but gosh darn, I wouldn't trade our life or relationship for anything. We have fun with it, make the best out of everyday and have become the best of friends.

The biggest thing I have learned through this relationship? The minute you stop caring about what society, your friends, or your family says when it comes to love and how it "should be", the more intense that love becomes. Who cares if they don't understand it, just knowing that you both "get it" and find it worth keeping is enough.

 

 

so glad i butterflied in here........made me smile.....dont know why anyone would want to put your relationship down they can suck it......and it is probably lemons they are sucking anyway....its beautiful and rare to find a connection as the one you describe, you have....you seem so happy ....why would someone want to bring you down....i would question that motive to want to do that to you......not your relationship that sounds beautiful......i hope to find one such as yours one day.....maybe i might be just be as happy.because that to me is a blossoming treat to read.......i can dream too........one day...thanks for sharing.....i am happy for you....best wishes......deb

[iKING]

He is older, and we pretty much moved in together after our 1st date.

From my family the age and the fact that he is a recovering alcoholic automatically made them not care for him.

 

 

For others, the age and the fact that we spend SO much time together. It throws people off, they can't imagine doing almost EVERYTHING with one person. It was like skipping a step, which isn't always accepted.

 

Eh, as long as it works out, who are they to judge?

 

Ironically I've been in your position, let a girlfriend move into my apartment after like a week (there's more to that story beyond infatuation though), took 6 months before we started getting sick of each other and broke up.

 

As long as you can work past problems that arise I don't see why it can't have a chance of working out. The reason it isn't traditional is the same reason friends aren't supposed to spend 24/7 together, doesn't mean it never works out though. It could either completely strengthen the bond, or completely dissolve it. You guys could end up as a great team. Just don't end up the next Bonnie and Clyde, for our sake.

[StanMusial]

He isn't THAT much older btw. Just 10 years, but he is bald... and grey.

Therefore people tend to think he is a bit older than just 32.

 

My gf is 11 years younger. I'm not bald though and I still get carded sometimes. I'm also not a recovering alcoholic. That lifestyle can add years to your appearance.

 

There's a good chance that guys your age would not treat you as good as this guy does.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Eh, as long as it works out, who are they to judge?

 

Ironically I've been in your position, let a girlfriend move into my apartment after like a week (there's more to that story beyond infatuation though), took 6 months before we started getting sick of each other and broke up.

 

As long as you can work past problems that arise I don't see why it can't have a chance of working out. The reason it isn't traditional is the same reason friends aren't supposed to spend 24/7 together, doesn't mean it never works out though. It could either completely strengthen the bond, or completely dissolve it. You guys could end up as a great team. Just don't end up the next Bonnie and Clyde, for our sake.

 

I'll try, I think for being at almost 5 months of spending "too much" time together we are doing pretty fantastic!

 

You truly never know, but after experiencing this, it is something I will definitely look for again. I can't help but assume this is a rare thing we have going on.

 

 

I think a huge reason why we get along so well is that we laid everything out on the table from the get go. Our goals, morals, wants, needs... we made it clear what we wanted from date number one and I feel like as long as we stay on the same page... things can only get better from here. I am so excited to have found a man who has been looking for exactly what I have.

[miss_jaclynrae]

My gf is 11 years younger. I'm not bald though and I still get carded sometimes. I'm also not a recovering alcoholic. That lifestyle can add years to your appearance.

 

There's a good chance that guys your age would not treat you as good as this guy does.

 

He is still SUPER sexy.

 

He really does treat me amazingly, a huge part of that is that I have always been a bit older for my age. Meaning, our lifestyles meshed well. We don't go out much [i have never been a drinker or a partier, made it difficult to date men my age] and we just share the same ideas when it comes to how a relationship SHOULD be. I also have a divorce under my belt, so I have approached dating very seriously, as in making it extremely clear what I am willing to tolerate and not tolerate.

 

11 years huh? How old is she?

[outsidethebox]

"My family doesn't approve,..."

 

In your last thread you said you broke off contact with your family.

 

I love your new avatar. I will have to return to this after Revenge and Red Widow. Maybe it will be figured out by then.

[miss_jaclynrae]

"My family doesn't approve,..."

 

In your last thread you said you broke off contact with your family.

 

I love your new avatar. I will have to return to this after Revenge and Red Widow. Maybe it will be figured out by then.

 

It is a confusing tale.

I was put into foster care and although I am in contact with my family... they are not very supportive in terms of supporting ME. Emotional support is even lacking, as of late I have lessened contact other than to get in touch with my younger siblings. It is a very complex situation.

 

Thanks btw.

[StanMusial]

He is still SUPER sexy.

 

He really does treat me amazingly, a huge part of that is that I have always been a bit older for my age. Meaning, our lifestyles meshed well. We don't go out much [i have never been a drinker or a partier, made it difficult to date men my age] and we just share the same ideas when it comes to how a relationship SHOULD be. I also have a divorce under my belt, so I have approached dating very seriously, as in making it extremely clear what I am willing to tolerate and not tolerate.

 

11 years huh? How old is she?

 

I'm 37, she is 26. Your past marriage was a learning experience I hope. I've never been married, I didn't have serious thoughts about it until recently.

[iKING]

I'll try, I think for being at almost 5 months of spending "too much" time together we are doing pretty fantastic!

 

You truly never know, but after experiencing this, it is something I will definitely look for again. I can't help but assume this is a rare thing we have going on.

 

 

I think a huge reason why we get along so well is that we laid everything out on the table from the get go. Our goals, morals, wants, needs... we made it clear what we wanted from date number one and I feel like as long as we stay on the same page... things can only get better from here. I am so excited to have found a man who has been looking for exactly what I have.

 

That's awesome, I hope it goes swimmingly.

 

It was a lot of fun while it lasted I have to admit, would probably do it again too. Although I'm also the type to play by my own rules, so it wouldn't really matter what anyone thought regardless.

 

It's good that you guys got everything out on the table from the get-go, that'll definitely be beneficial in the long run. Especially since you prefer a similar lifestyle, it won't get in the way down the road.

 

Ah, I miss California, one of the funnest places on earth. I wish rent wasn't so expensive otherwise I'd probably live there. What's the rent like these days for a 1 bedroom? Not in like HB or Costa Mesa though, they're way overpriced, I'm curious.

 

It is a confusing tale.

I was put into foster care and although I am in contact with my family... they are not very supportive in terms of supporting ME. Emotional support is even lacking, as of late I have lessened contact other than to get in touch with my younger siblings. It is a very complex situation.

 

Thanks btw.

 

That's so weird, the girl that lived with me had foster parents as a kid as well, she even looked kinda like you.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I'm 37, she is 26. Your past marriage was a learning experience I hope. I've never been married, I didn't have serious thoughts about it until recently.

 

Oh god. If anything teaches you a lot, it is going through a divorce.

Especially when you are the party working to salvage the marriage.

 

 

 

You live and learn, you definitely learn what you can and cannot tolerate. I dated pretty heavily for a year and a half as well and learned a lot then too!

That is exciting! For him it is a little scary, just because of my age group, which I don't blame him. He has this huge fear he is taking away my youth.

 

 

My ex husband already stole that from me though.

 

 

 

 

 

That is super cheesy and cute btw. It gives me hope. It is funny though, for how much my family disapproves, my parents have an 8 year gap. His family is amazing though and have taken me in. I already am "Aunty Jaclyn" to his 4 nephews.

[miss_jaclynrae]

That's awesome, I hope it goes swimmingly.

 

It was a lot of fun while it lasted I have to admit, would probably do it again too. Although I'm also the type to play by my own rules, so it wouldn't really matter what anyone thought regardless.

 

It's good that you guys got everything out on the table from the get-go, that'll definitely be beneficial in the long run. Especially since you prefer a similar lifestyle, it won't get in the way down the road.

 

Ah, I miss California, one of the funnest places on earth. I wish rent wasn't so expensive otherwise I'd probably live there. What's the rent like these days for a 1 bedroom? Not in like HB or Costa Mesa though, they're way overpriced, I'm curious.

 

 

 

That's so weird, the girl that lived with me had foster parents as a kid as well, she even looked kinda like you.

 

 

It isn't so bad, we are in the Sacramento area. Depends on what you are looking for, our place isn't in the nicest area so rent is only 630, but we love it here. We are looking at places downtown though and it is about 700-900 for a one bedroom. That is also in a nicer area though.

 

 

 

So cal is ridiculous. When my ex husband and I lived there, we were in dana point, san clemente, mission viejo, and san juan cap. Rent was about 1300. For a one bedroom.

[CryForNoOne]

He is older, and we pretty much moved in together after our 1st date.

From my family the age and the fact that he is a recovering alcoholic automatically made them not care for him.

 

 

For others, the age and the fact that we spend SO much time together. It throws people off, they can't imagine doing almost EVERYTHING with one person. It was like skipping a step, which isn't always accepted.

 

My first serious relationship was when I was 23. She was 24. She basically moved in with me after our first date. We spent seemingly every moment together the first several months. It was easily the most intense relationship I ever had. We lasted 4.5 years and it was the only time I was ever truly in love. My friends and family used to frown at how quickly she moved in and people would quote me brutal divorce statistics. To hell with them. Our relationship ended for other reasons. I have no regrets about how quickly it happened. It felt right and it was right.

[Ninjainpajamas]

People often underestimate how much your family/friends....actually know about you.

 

They see all the things you don't see in your little butterfly like world...

 

"I'm going against the world for my love...they don't understand what WE have!"

 

I mean, seriously? Do you think this hasn't been done by teenagers for centuries as well as irresponsible adults?

 

It's fine that your relationship is going well with your BF...but you've known this guy all but a tiny tiny portion of your entire life...your family/friends...known you forever (yeah yeah it feels like you've known each other forever..you're best friends...never heard that one before!)...don't you think they can tell when something is off with you? don't you think that they can see what is really going on? How many women will replace naivety for "love conquers all"? I'm assuming not very many...I see women do it all the time...and honestly...most of the time the family/friends were right...why? because they know you better than that and any mature and responsible man in your life knows exactly why this guy is sinking his hooks in you...I mean it's just that obvious, it's freaking common sense for any guy, I could walk up to any guy on the street and get on the same wave length, it's a man thing and if not...they're lying to you or clearly biased for obvious reasons of "personal" opinion. Men are stubborn and hate to labeled and stereotyped...even if the shet they do is....stereotypical.

 

The bottom line is, you don't really know how this relationship is going to go down the road...you don't really know what happens when things aren't so peachy, and he's not so patience and supportive...after all, he is more mature or should be at his age.

 

But if you're looking for the daddy/boyfriend relationship, remember that the daddy is in control. He's going to call the shots and determine the direction and situation of this living relationship...oh i know, I'm sooo wrong right now, he's been nothing but supportive, caring and loving...I wasn't born yesterday, i know how these things work, I know how men work...they are predictable. Men are like trains, once they get on one track they can only go in so many directions and it's either forward or back.

 

So be careful how much you exclude, ignore, denounce or create this wall between family and friends...you gotta remember that they're your friends and your family, after this relationship is gone and over with they're the ones that are going to see you crying over your little pity part....but then again this is probably how you roll...you rebel against anyone telling you what to do and you THINK you know what you're doing because you're mature and somewhat experienced...look, I'm a 32 year old guy myself, I could run circles around women in their early 20's, it's fish in a barrel...especially if they have any kind of negative past or experiences...how hard is it to swoon a young woman who's had nothing but ignorant/immature relationships herself?...Please, give me any 20 something heartbroken/hopeless romantic and create the notebook 2 if that was the kind of man I was. And you wonder why older men go for younger women?...it's a huge edge, more than you'll ever know, but that's the price of youth and I cannot understand any man who helps women deny this fact, it only perpetuates their naivety telling them what they WANT to hear....but then again, let's make friends, let's be nice and supportive to each other...let's all just act like if shet blows up in your face it's apart of life...and nothing to do with your choices or using your brain...I'm sure we're all just helpless victims of this big giant world...it does so many things to us!

 

Listen to your friends and family, hear what they have to say...they're not trying to hurt you or make you less happy in your life, they just know how it is...99 percent of the time, and they can see the routine that you're falling into, they can see the little bubble you're living in and telling yourself everything is so magical and perfect....everyone's been there and done that!, especially with some experience, so listen to the words of the wise if you really consider yourself to have any maturity.

 

"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.”

 

 

 

Theodore Roosevelt

[CryForNoOne]

It isn't so bad, we are in the Sacramento area. Depends on what you are looking for, our place isn't in the nicest area so rent is only 630, but we love it here. We are looking at places downtown though and it is about 700-900 for a one bedroom. That is also in a nicer area though.

 

 

 

So cal is ridiculous. When my ex husband and I lived there, we were in dana point, san clemente, mission viejo, and san juan cap. Rent was about 1300. For a one bedroom.

Santa Monica is about $2000 for a nice 1BR if you are near the beach...

[miss_jaclynrae]

People often underestimate how much your family/friends....actually know about you.

 

They see all the things you don't see in your little butterfly like world...

 

"I'm going against the world for my love...they don't understand what WE have!"

 

I mean, seriously? Do you think this hasn't been done by teenagers for centuries as well as irresponsible adults?

 

It's fine that your relationship is going well with your BF...but you've known this guy all but a tiny tiny portion of your entire life...your family/friends...known you forever (yeah yeah it feels like you've known each other forever..you're best friends...never heard that one before!)...don't you think they can tell when something is off with you? don't you think that they can see what is really going on? How many women will replace naivety for "love conquers all"? I'm assuming not very many...I see women do it all the time...and honestly...most of the time the family/friends were right...why? because they know you better than that and any mature and responsible man in your life knows exactly why this guy is sinking his hooks in you...I mean it's just that obvious, it's freaking common sense for any guy, I could walk up to any guy on the street and get on the same wave length, it's a man thing and if not...they're lying to you or clearly biased for obvious reasons of "personal" opinion. Men are stubborn and hate to labeled and stereotyped...even if the shet they do is....stereotypical.

 

The bottom line is, you don't really know how this relationship is going to go down the road...you don't really know what happens when things aren't so peachy, and he's not so patience and supportive...after all, he is more mature or should be at his age.

 

But if you're looking for the daddy/boyfriend relationship, remember that the daddy is in control. He's going to call the shots and determine the direction and situation of this living relationship...oh i know, I'm sooo wrong right now, he's been nothing but supportive, caring and loving...I wasn't born yesterday, i know how these things work, I know how men work...they are predictable. Men are like trains, once they get on one track they can only go in so many directions and it's either forward or back.

 

So be careful how much you exclude, ignore, denounce or create this wall between family and friends...you gotta remember that they're your friends and your family, after this relationship is gone and over with they're the ones that are going to see you crying over your little pity part....but then again this is probably how you roll...you rebel against anyone telling you what to do and you THINK you know what you're doing because you're mature and somewhat experienced...look, I'm a 32 year old guy myself, I could run circles around women in their early 20's, it's fish in a barrel...especially if they have any kind of negative past or experiences...how hard is it to swoon a young woman who's had nothing but ignorant/immature relationships herself?...Please, give me any 20 something heartbroken/hopeless romantic and create the notebook 2 if that was the kind of man I was. And you wonder why older men go for younger women?...it's a huge edge, more than you'll ever know, but that's the price of youth and I cannot understand any man who helps women deny this fact, it only perpetuates their naivety telling them what they WANT to hear....but then again, let's make friends, let's be nice and supportive to each other...let's all just act like if shet blows up in your face it's apart of life...and nothing to do with your choices or using your brain...I'm sure we're all just helpless victims of this big giant world...it does so many things to us!

 

Listen to your friends and family, hear what they have to say...they're not trying to hurt you or make you less happy in your life, they just know how it is...99 percent of the time, and they can see the routine that you're falling into, they can see the little bubble you're living in and telling yourself everything is so magical and perfect....everyone's been there and done that!, especially with some experience, so listen to the words of the wise if you really consider yourself to have any maturity.

 

"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.”

 

 

 

Theodore Roosevelt

 

 

I didn't even bother reading this whole thing.

Considering that my parents [who aren't even my biological parents] put me into foster care at the age of 14.

 

 

I could give two ****s what they think.

Nice try though.

[MrCastle]

I hope it works out for you as I think all of us deserve happiness.

 

I do think you are rushing into things but I wish you good luck.

[iKING]

It isn't so bad, we are in the Sacramento area. Depends on what you are looking for, our place isn't in the nicest area so rent is only 630, but we love it here. We are looking at places downtown though and it is about 700-900 for a one bedroom. That is also in a nicer area though.

 

 

 

So cal is ridiculous. When my ex husband and I lived there, we were in dana point, san clemente, mission viejo, and san juan cap. Rent was about 1300. For a one bedroom.

 

That's actually pretty reasonable, prices out here go from like 300-1200 depending on location. 1200 being in the center of the hot spots. While I was out there the last time on an epic adventure I asked around what prices were like in a pretty ghettoish part of town and people were saying 1200 for a 1 bedroom, was wild.

 

Santa Monica is about $2000 for a nice 1BR if you are near the beach...

 

Yeah that's the type of prices I was seeing, like 2k/mo for a beachfront apartment in HB, which I guess is understandable.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I hope it works out for you as I think all of us deserve happiness.

 

I do think you are rushing into things but I wish you good luck.

 

Thanks handsome.

:wink

 

 

 

We probably are, but when it comes to marriage and kids, we are a ways off.

That being said, we will be at a stand still for a few years.

[Ninjainpajamas]

I didn't even bother reading this whole thing.

Considering that my parents [who aren't even my biological parents] put me into foster care at the age of 14.

 

 

I could give two ****s what they think.

Nice try though.

 

Of course you won't read it, because you're not really that mature or as grown up as you think you are.

 

You had one bad/serious relationship that ended up in a bad divorce and now you think you've gotten it all figured out with a guy who's 10 years older than you.

 

Keep making excuses of why not to listen to people, I already know you're the type of person who is only going to listen to the people that will blow smoke up her @ss and nod in agreement...shets predictable man.