Kali-Persad Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 When a relationship is taken away from you, the other person is doing so against your will. You can consider it as if you're holding a bar of gold in your hands and then someone grabs it from you. It's more interesting because the culprit is a special person. It's someone you love and care about. This feels especially horrible. When this kind of thing happens, you're searching for a reason why it happened. You hold the other person in very high esteem. In your eyes that person is innocent and has a right to their actions against you. Yes, it really is illogical. So that leaves you. You must be the bad person. You feel that you did something wrong. That some how you deserve it. It was your fault some how. Since you love and care about your special someone, you feel that you need at least a chance to make it up to them in some way. The problem is...they won't give you a chance... and you really can't find exactly what it was that you did wrong that could warrant such a drastic action. You become stuck and stressed out. It feels really bad. What Can You Do About it? Recognize you are the one who lost your bar of gold. The other person took it from you, forcibly and against your will. The other person took an action against you. The other person refused to talk with you to come to an agreement. The other person didn't really care about your feelings. Look at all the negative things you thought about yourself because of that special someone taking your gold away from you. Those are false ideas you have about yourself. You're actually a totally amazing person. The same amazing person that your special someone fell in love with. One day something happened to your special someone. Something in that person changed. You're still the amazing person. That amazing person is still who you are. It is the person you will continue to be. Can you accept that? 2
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