à droite Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 This all started a few nights ago when I was talking about my brother new GF and how she seeing a therapist and my brother need to be careful with woman like that. My BF in turn said I am not being fair she just needs support and to feel loved . I know what she is going through it not a big deal you just need to take it one day at a time. Then I was well how do you know what she going through? I talked to her and been helping your brother with things to do to help her and supporting her without babying her. I wish you would not say mean thing about people that need to see therapist . I have been seeing a therapist for years and it help me do a complete 180 in life . I went from crying my self to sleep and drinking myself to sleep every night . Me and my old roommate use to drink a ton i am not joking it got bad like one 1/2 gallon hard alcohol every day and 1/2 . I hated myself and wanted to hide in drugs but never did thank god . I was at a dark place and I would not be wear i am at to day if it was not for therapy. Now I love myself and feel confident and my life is going great . I know you shocked to find this out but you need to stop putting your brother gf down he a grown man he can take care of himself. Yea i am still seeing a therapist I just do not go all the time but if you can accept that then there it the door . To tell you the truth it does hurt that you think the some thing is wrong with people that get help like her and i do or did . I did not know what to say other then sorry I had no idea you went through all that and give him a hug and said I did not mean to hurt you and if I did i am so sorry and i will try to give my brothers gf a chance . my bf did not want to talk about what going on with him other then what he said . How do I stop being a bad gf? I feel like I have not been a good gf toward my bf as of late and need to turn it around or he will dump me i am lucky he did dump me . I might have if i was him.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Therapy does not imply illness. In fact it often implies wellness--the acceptance of responsibility to manage one's feelings and stay out of toxicity traps with other people. It is all a bs lie that we are somehow "created" as some special being outside of animal nature--we are indeed very much inside nature and come into being through random processes which never match perfect gene pools. There are a myriad of other things called "epi-genetics" which can effect everything from our gender assignments and sexual preferences to our temperaments. People can often seem very well and then their exposure to someone else who is a source of toxic energy can knock them off center. When I broke up with my fiance--who I did not yet understand to have BPD ("borderline personality disorder")--my last words to her were "either you get help or we're done". Then I called her back and said "on second thought, it's too late" and it occurred to me to get help for myself because of the misery I had experienced with her. I was not "sick in the head", but I was "sick of reliving the dramas" and complaining to my peers and family about it. Everyone has the capacity to be knocked off their centers. I just watched "I Survived" on the Biography channel where a guy everyone thought was a terrific guy just got in over his head in the stock market and killed 12 people including his wife and two daughters. No one saw it coming. Sp. by no means should a person seeing a therapist be judged just for going. If that jerk who killed all those people weren't in denial maybe he would have pulled his crap together. Every person is unique and has their own story, some are truly sick, others are just sick of other people's shi+ or just want some help building a brighter future. 2
Barnacle-Bob Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Be thankful he's proactive and self-aware. Seriously, I've met maybe 2 people in my life who weren't in serious need of therapy. I've done it...its incredibly helpful IF a person is receptive to it. As an aside, one of my favorite things about the brief time I've spent on OLD was seeing women's profiles where one of the first things they stated was that they are 'drama free'....then, you read the rest of their profile, and its just a giant neon sign saying 'BATS**T!!!'.
amaysngrace Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I wouldn't sweat it. You had a formed opinion about it and he opened your mind. You're challenging beliefs you held and that means you're growing.
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