ex gf contacted me

[shyguy1980]

Gf finished with me last August but we went no contact since December so 3 months that's when she got with her new bf I deleted her number and got rid of her clothes that she left here because I couldn't look at them anymore and felt I needed to do this to move on. Yesterday I got a txt saying hello so I Said whos this and she said it was her and that she was genuinely sorry how she ended things after quite a few txtes it got around to her saying that she will bring my mum some flowers round cos shes ill and that she needed to come round and collect the rest of her stuff i threw it all away because i saw that she got a new boyfriend:confused: why after 7 months of not being together and 3 months not talking would she do this she lives 3 hours away she kept saying dont worry about it when I txted I would pay for wot I threw If it was anything important havent heard from her since she's obviously annoyed. i keep feeling the need to text her now and ask why did she txt she hasnt bothered with me again since

[Am4Real]

General advice from most of us here on LS would say to you: "not to return any texts" to her.

 

She was obviously curious about you having not heard anything and, you about her when you returned her messages (I'm presuming of course).

 

Nothing good will likely come of it. She apologized to you and you accepted it.

 

Whether or not her clothes and stuff were thrown away is not of importance and certainly not your problem. Months have passed and if these items were of value or imporatnce she would have made arrangements to retreive them.

 

Honestly, from the sounds of things she was simply curious about you and seeing whether or not:

 

1. you still had the same cell number
   
2. would be interested in getting together
   
3. had a new GF
   
4. and who knows what else...
   

Here at LS we often refer to the return from the EX as the breadcrumbs of the past; normally nothing becomes of it except your frustrations.

 

 

Gf finished with me last August but we went no contact since December so 3 months that's when she got with her new bf I deleted her number and got rid of her clothes that she left here because I couldn't look at them anymore and felt I needed to do this to move on. Yesterday I got a txt saying hello so I Said whos this and she said it was her and that she was genuinely sorry how she ended things after quite a few txtes it got around to her saying that she will bring my mum some flowers round cos shes ill and that she needed to come round and collect the rest of her stuff i threw it all away because i saw that she got a new boyfriend:confused: why after 7 months of not being together and 3 months not talking would she do this she lives 3 hours away she kept saying dont worry about it when I txted I would pay for wot I threw If it was anything important havent heard from her since she's obviously annoyed. i keep feeling the need to text her now and ask why did she txt she hasnt bothered with me again since

[shyguy1980]

so was i wrong to have texted back when she texted me or should i not text her now

[Am4Real]

so was i wrong to have texted back when she texted me or should i not text her now

 

She likely sent you a message, not a genuine phone call like most people who want to communicate with an EX because she was only satisfying her curiousity about you.

 

Possible reasons might include:

 

1. you still had the same cell number
   
2. would be interested in getting together
   
3. had a new GF
   
4. and who knows what else...
   

So were you wrong? Yes and no...but who cares.

 

Since she is not asking you or telling you anything specific or stating her wants with you on a personal level, starting a conversation with her via text is likely to take you all the way back to where you once were months ago.

 

Therefore, unless she call you and is specific, I would not communicate with her any further.

 

Of couse only you know what is best for you...

 

All the best,

Am4Real

[fancy feast]

I think you handled it fine. No need to send anything else. The ball is in her court if she wants to be compensated for her stuff.

[denxnis]

You're doing good man just don't converse with her about the past, she made a decision and now she has to live with it. Keep moving forward with your life and don't make the same mistakes twice!

[shyguy1980]

if she textes again i wont text back it has left me feeling confused again hope she leaves me alone now thanks for the replys everyone